I have a bad marriage... we don't live together, but are not officially "separated." Besides not being together physically in the same household, things are not all that good... Should I start divorce proceedings immediately or wait to see if it changes?? I believe he wants it to work out...
2007-11-08 16:02:22 · 5 answers · asked by A W 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make this decision after seeking real counseling.
Hoards of geeks with keyboards does not constitute real counseling.
Good luck.
2007-11-08 16:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Does it really matter if HE wants to work it out?
You already told us you have a "bad marriage."
You told us you "don't live together"
You told us "things are not at all good."
If he wanted to make it work out - don't you think he would have tried by now?
What do YOU want? By the sounds of it, you want to begin divorce proceedings but need that little bit of encouragement in that direction.
Here it is..
Go for it.
Too often, couples separate without divrocing and later on they meet someone and want to get married to them but - Alas! - they can't find the ex-spouse to sign the papers and then they have to wait for a longer period of time before the divorce goes through.
Divorce now - marry later.
Divorce later - become stressed later.
2007-11-09 00:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to think i have bad marriage too. BUt we live together and he did trying to make things orait. Even our marriage have been rocking high and low for the pass 3 years.I still fell the strong love in him for me. I am more sensitive and high emotional compare to him. He is very patience towards me.I have tried many ways to be a good wife.We passed 3 years,apartly because the give and take between us.I have phobia of him cheated once,3 years ago. And this feeling is the worst enermy in me,i am working on it to break that phobia spell. I followed my love and its pointing to my husband, we're still together, doh its not perfect as how its began. Don't give up,Take a moment and talk to him like friend,let him speak out and you will get the answer,since you still belief he feel the same. I pray for you.
2007-11-09 00:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wanted to work it out, u guys would be together right now...not living separately. ya, start the divorce process. i wish u didnt have to but the more time u waste in this situation the less time u'll have with that man whose supposed to be with u---who wants to be with u...
he wont change. be good to urself--do something about this situation...good luck, girl!
2007-11-09 00:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u both need 2 be in the same home ,then u both need 2 talk 2 make it work, if u both r not 2gether 2 make dicisions 2gether then how could it work.if he loves u then he go back home.
2007-11-09 03:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by kim27 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋