i am going through a break up after a short marriage and relationship of 4 years and having a hell of a time. i get lost in thoughts while am into middle of something. Would be working for 11-12 hours and the moment i get free my mind starts wandering into thoughts filled with anger and sadness. i am a business owner and so have no supervisor over me. in the past months my work has suffered, sometimes i have crossed deadlines and feel pathetic about the whole thing.
Can you please share some tips to manage an orderly life? i have also taken up hobby to divert my thoughts. i don't drink and (if someone may suggest to sleep around i am not doing that) Thanks.
2007-11-08 15:49:47 · 8 answers · asked by protege 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So sorry protege...I know it's not what you want to hear, but outside of what you're already doing ( trying to keep busy ) I think time is the only thing that will help. I hope it gets better for you soon.
2007-11-08 15:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Care♥ mommy 2 my boys 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im glad to hear tt u not doing anything foolish or negative and u are handling stuff quite well...
it will take some time for u to get ur life in order and not get agitated or angry at ur wife... time will heal ur pain...u are oredy making an effort ... see u have even taken up a hobby... do things slowly dun rush... its only a matter of time
if u think tt ur bad memories are really like "haunting" u then i suggest u see a physicologist (spelling) / shrink ... try to meet up with frens.. hang out once in a while...
as for ur work... i guess its nartural... just try to list down the deadline of each project so tt u dun cross deadlines or overlook them.. no 1 is prefect u are oredy doing ur best... ;)
take care !! hope u get over all this sad memories soon!!
BeSt of LuCk !! :)
2007-11-09 03:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you got a hobby and that you are working too. Time is what heals and it sounds like you are doing the right things. I know someone who on some days doesn't even get out of bed. The fact that your work is suffering a little bit is understandable. At least you are working. I think that if you keep your clients up to date on possible delays etc. then they will understand. It's usually the surprises that piss people off.
Good luck.
2007-11-08 23:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds simple, but make a list of "have to do TODAY" tasks every morning. Just start at the top and keep working until you complete the list. It will probably take all day so you won't have time to get distracted by your depression. If you are not already finding time to exercise, you should add it to the list also. It makes such a difference in stress relief.
2007-11-08 23:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well don't start drinking! Alcohol will only make your depression worse.
It sounds to me like you are depressed. You need to do some soul searching and find ways to be honest and happy with yourself.
It's no big deal. All you have to do is change your thinking. Don't date again until you have had time to yourself and you have found the help that you need.
Good luck.
2007-11-08 23:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. My ex fiance left me and moved in with someone he met two days later. I was with him three years and don't know how he could be that cold. I dont have the desire to do anything at all.
2007-11-08 23:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
diversion is one of them... but I know it's not enough have you tried support group or going to see a therapist? It's usually a good idea just in case.
2007-11-08 23:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just knuckle down and do it ! there is no easy way.
2007-11-09 07:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋