I'm 13 and pregnant and my parents don't know.. wat do i do???

Question

i went to a party with a bunch of 16 17 and 18 year olds and snuck out of my house and got f***ed up and someone took advantage of me and now im pregnant and the father won't even talk to me. i don't know if i should tell my parents or if i should let them figure it out themselves.

PLEASE HELP

I'm under 15 weeks and still haven't told my parents. I'm not showing should i just get an abortion and not let my parents know or wat??I don't kno wat to do

Answer 1

You were not taken advantage of because you also stated that he will not talk to you so if he raped you then you would not be worried if he was talking to you.

Since you thought you were old enough to go out, drink or do drugs and have sex without the use of birth control then you should be grown up enough to tell your little secret.
Congrats!!!

Answer 2

I would tell your parents. They will be sad and hurt when you tell them.. but you could tell them worse things. Atleast you didn't go commit a murder or something. Tell them how you feel about this whole thing. Tell them you know you are way to young to raise a baby and you are very scared and really want their help. They can help you get the right vitamins and help pick out a good doctor for you. If you don't miscarry.. I say put the baby up for adoption. You say you are too young, so why not give the baby up and let a family take care of the baby who can't get pregnant. God will forgive you for your sins and getting pregnant at 13 because of doing the right thing. The last thing I will ever suggest is an abortion. Abortion is selfish and wrong. It isn't the unborn baby's fault that it is being brought into this world. It's yours. Don't kill the baby just because you can't care for it. Give it a shot at life and put it up for adoption. Good luck.

Answer 3

This is what happens when kids today try to act like grown-ups. Nobody is happy and content with being a kid anymore. Your generation has lost the concept of 'you have to wait, you aren't old enough'. And I'm sure this use to piss you off. But this is why you should have held on to your childhood. You can never go back now. Even if you have an abortion, it will always be with you. You gave this boy a piece of yourself that you are never going to get back.
And I don't think he took advantage of you. You put yourself in that situation, and were asking to be taken advantage of. If, at the time, you didn't say NO, then it was perfectly ok with you.
I think you and your gentleman friend both wanted to act adult, and you got adult results. This is what happens in the adult world, and that's a place you shouldn't even know about for 6 or 7 years. But you wanted to play the part, now you are thrown head first and it's reality now. You need to accept it, and deal with it, as an adult. Yes, your parents are going to mad, hurt, upset, devastated, angry, and sad. But you need to tell them you have made the decision you want to be an adult now, and you are going to have to accept the consequence, like an adult would.
And, if I were you, I'd go after the father for child support. Your child is entitled. And just don't know of anyone who would hire a 13 year old, and you are going to need loits of money to raise a baby.

Answer 4

You have got to tell your parents. I mean come on you are 13 this is alot to handle for someone your age. What were you even doing out at a party with people 3-5 years older than you? You definitely need to talk to someone if not your parents than your school counselor or someone. But your parents are going to find out eventually so might as well get it over now so you guys can figure out the best thing to do.

Answer 5

If you know who the father is, he should be reported to the authorities because you are only 13. You shouldn't have been at a party where there was drinking and possibly drugs (that is my assumption!) You should be seeking prenatal care as soon as possible because, as young as you are, you are at high risk for lots of problems. Please tell your parents. They might be upset about your sneaking out. If they treat you badly--some parents threaten to kick the kid out or threaten to kill the kid...but rarely do either!!!--report their behavior to someone at school or the police. You did sneak out but you didn't deserve to be taken advantage of.

Tell them NOW. Then you have to decide one of 3 things: will you have the baby and keep it; will you have the baby and give it up for adoption; will you get an abortion? You don't say how far along you are. Most abortion clinics won't accept you if you are beyond about 15 weeks pregnant.

Answer 6

Personally I think you should quietly go have an abortion. Learn the lesson, and move on with your life.

Hang out with people you can trust.

However, you were raped. You should consult a counselor or somebody. You were raped, you might find it best to press charges.

Don't be having a baby just because people think abortion is bad. Miscarrages, natural abortions, happen all the time. Just get some good, IRL, face to face talking, help. Go to a Dr. or healthcare worker, or somebody.

And you should tell your parents if they will not freak out.

Answer 7

First of all, what are you doing going to a party for people of that age group at 13!!??? You are going to have to tell your parents and NOW!! the father will have to face the music, and it's too bad for him I hope you have told him! You will need lots of support and the only one's you will get that from at this stage is your parents. They are going to be angry and upset especially since you snuck out of the house to go to this party. If you don't tell them now and they find out some other way they will be more upset! If you are brave enough to sneak out and do what you did you have to be brave enough to tell your parents!!!

Answer 8

Gurl you better tell your parents because you going to need all the help.and i think your mother and father will probably get up set is because you are 13 an you r pregant so just ell them everything that happen about an i think that your parents will ustand your problem.and i want to wish good luck 4 you okay i hope evrything will be all right between you an your parents. emaill an tell me how it go.im sorry but at night your parents r go be really upset aobut this baby an you r 13

Answer 9

listen u have two options but it depends on you and also how far out in pregnancy your in

1) if your way before 5 months and u dont' want to keep this child u can get aborted but still advise your parents even if they get mad anyhow when baby is born they will know the same but you need help and guide hun think very well there is no going back sweety on this its an innocent soul but with your age i would understand if u thought otherwise.

2) if you choose to keep this child and/or are past 5 months u tell your parents how it is and face your responsibilities of your own actions what is done is done and if they get upset u cannot blame them hun they tried to protect u from such predetors and u need help a child is alot of work and a huge responsibility

3) if u know who the dad is please hun but please give nurse that name and your mom and dad no matter his age he is responsible to ... even if he doesn't want to talk to u ... he is still responsible for this child and has to give u child support no matter what -- so when the babe is born ask to do a DNA and they will call him in for his testing to prove paternity and from the day of birth up he to will have to pay up even if he doesn't want to take part in this childs life speak to your parents they will help u i know its not easy but please do can't change what is done but u can change what u will do next time sweety good luck and god bless u

Answer 10

Tell them and soon, if someone took advantage of you then you should have told them right away and went to the doctor for the Plan B pill. But now you are stuck and you need their help to make the right decision concerning yourself and your baby.