2007-11-08 14:40:59 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sure, with a pacifier
2007-11-08 14:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
Well, it depends on a few more details, I guess.
How long and how formal is the wedding? If it's at a church, do they have a nursery that someone could take the baby to if it got fussy?
Who is going to hold the baby during the ceremony? Does this person have an integral part in the ceremony, or would it be ok for him/her to sit near the back and leave quietly if the baby gets fussy?
Are they coming from out of town, and if so, where would the baby stay if not attending the wedding?
My son was just over a year old when my sister got married. I was a bridesmaid, and of course grandma and grandpa were also very involved in the ceremony. Can't remember what my husband (now ex) was doing, but he would've been NO help regardless! We hired a nursery worker to keep him in the church nursery during the wedding, and he joined us for the reception. We dressed him in a darling little knicker suit that matched the bridesmaid dresses and he helped pass out rice bags. Having a nursery available turned out to be a very nice service for other wedding guests--it seems like they announced it beforehand or included it in the invitations some way, and people came that otherwise might not have attended if they'd had to hold babies or find other child care arrangements.
There are probably several solutions that would be appropriate--it just needs to be thought out and workable for this particular set of circumstances, and considerate of all involved.
2007-11-08 14:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person will have a different opinion on this. I think it's alright as long as the caretaker (parent or close friend) is sitting in an area where they can quickly leave the ceremony without disrupting it if the baby begins to get upset. It's really up to the bride and groom since it is their wedding. It's not uncommon for young children to not be invited since it's an adult affair. If you have lots of kids coming then you can have a separate room in the facility where they can go play while the ceremony is going on and during the reception they can come join in on the celebration- you'll need to hire a babysitter to watch them, of course.
2007-11-08 14:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think young children belong at a wedding because it can detract from what is actually going on. By no fault of their own, children, especially babies, get fussy and can be quite miserable when taken off of their schedules. I think everyone involved, including the child's parents, will have a better time in the baby stays at home with another family member or a sitter, and the adults are given some time to just be adults. With a 5 month old, that probably doesn't happen too often anyway.
2007-11-08 14:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie H 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the type of wedding. Is it a super formal adults only night wedding? Probably not, but realize that means that the best man might not be able to make it either.
If you're allowing other kids to come, and it's a typical during the afternoon church wedding, then yes you should let the baby come as long as there is someone to watch them other than the best man and take them out of the room if they start crying.
2007-11-08 14:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the circumstances if child care couldnt be found provided or offered by the couple that are marrying then the best man has every right to bring the child. but also remember this is an event that is costing the couple a hefty sum and a crying baby is a major disruption the couple is paying for your dinner and drinks for the night and if they requested an age limit it would be wrong not to honor it
2007-11-08 14:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by tweetyfi84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure the couple would have a more enjoyable time without the baby if they want to be alone but it depends on the "mood" of the wedding and up to the parents I assume. yes it might be a disturbance but other guests at a wedding can be just as disturbing as a 5 month old.
2007-11-08 14:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Amazing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you absolutely cannot find anyone to mind it during the service then it could be brought into the back of the church. The wedding couple should be the focus of a wedding. If the father wants to gloat then possibly the church or hall would have a room for a nursery where guests can view the infant if they chose.
Better to leave the kid with the grandparents or in laws and he/she can have their own day at their christening, bar mitzvah or birth day.
2007-11-08 14:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes why wouldn't it. A baby is part of the family. Alot of my friends have children and i would never exclude them from such an occasion. Although mind you i am attending a wedding tomorrow that isn't allowing children to attend, much to my dislike as i am a mother myself. But hey that's the thing we all don't think the same way, do we
2007-11-08 14:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by bellie19752000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It is disturbing if the baby cries and takes the focus of the wedding ceremony. Besides, some brides video the wedding and all you can hear is a crying baby. Not everyone thinks your baby is a adorable as you do at such an important event.
2007-11-08 14:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't see why not. My son was 2 months old and we took him to our friends wedding. My husband was the best man. I bought our son this cute little tux outfit. And I had a heavy blanket on him because it was sept and it was an outdoor wedding. It depends on the mother and if she feels comfortable taking her baby to the wedding or not.
2007-11-08 14:44:38 · answer #11 · answered by Lurinda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋