what to do?

Question

Ok I have step kids who I have been raising for years. there is a lot to this case. so please don't think I'm just trying to steop in between the kids in there mother that is not the case at all. anyway the judge heard about ten minutes and made temp orders letting her take the kids back to her home for thanksgiving. thier father and I are scared that they will get hurt or she will hide them and we wil never see them again. I'm thinking of writing to the judge myself and telling him all the fact with all the proof to back what I say. the thing is I don't know if I should do it or not. the thing is I think the kids should go back and see how much things have changed and let them get an idea weather they want to go again or not but there are 11 people living in a 3bd home already and with the kids it would be 14 there. and 2 drug dealers a convicted felon who is on perole for attempted murder grand theft auto and robbery. she has abused these kids abandond them medically neglected them

and allowed her brother to bet the youngest one several times. the kids do not want to go we have asked the judge 4 times to speak with the kids since they are 16, 15, 11 but he will not talk to them. should I right the letter and file the evedence or not the attorney will not help me in this matter for some reason he said the judge will think i'm trying to step in the middle but I will not say anything I cant prove and i know the judge did not here it. my husband agrees something needs to be done but what can we do if not right to the judge

Answer 1

I think that you need a better attorney. How can a judge allow children into such a bad situation? You have to discuss it with the father and let him make the final decision.

Okay, I just read your additional details. If your husband, the father, is on board, send the letter. You have to do everything within your power to help the kids. I also think that the state should assign attorneys to the kids so that their interests are protected. Please check into this.

Answer 2

I don't know how much time you have before you have to hand the kids over. I would suggest you do it ASAP. Take the kids to see an attorney. Normally when under age kids are involve, the court should appoint someone to represent the kids, council for child. It might take some time to arrange, if it does then you just have to hire one to represent them. costly. Once they got one, they will have to make a sworn affidavit to support your claim. But of course, solid evidence is require.
I truly think as for your case, you are already too late, submittion should have been with the Judge AT the first hearing before orders were made. Now the next stage and the only stage, is you to appeal against that judgement. It will take months.
My advise is that you keep in constance contact with the kids when they are with their mum. Give them some secret money as protection, if anything happen they will have that money to get out and wait for help, until you get to them. The court or the system can only act on solid evidence,( what happened ) not base on speculation. ( what WILL happen )
You just have to be patient and hope nothing happen to them.
As hard as it sound, but there nothing much you can do, once the orders were made.
Good luck. Pray hard.

Answer 3

I would say go ahead and write the judge a letter,if the judge isnt doing anything,ask for a different judge,simply go file the papers and let the court clerk no that you do not want judge so and so because..................... and give her your reason (you dont feel that the judge is willing to listen and treat things fairly and you dont believe he/she has the best interest of the kids at heart) I would also get a real good lawyer - get one that specialises in these issues,you dont want any middle of the road lawyer. with those people living in the house I would not let the kids go there,but it cant be you that formally stops it because you are the step parent

Answer 4

You need a lawyer ASAP- this is too big for simply writing a letter to a judge.
There are temporary routes to take until a court date is set. The hard part is proving the neglect, abuse or danger. Surely the background of the people involved is sufficient but it depends on the judge.
You MUST get a lawyer. One that will do their job.
Prayer always helps too!

Answer 5

YES, write the judge. Send it by registered mail so you get a receipt that his office received it. (That will also call attention to the letter.) Your letter will probably not change anything, but if something does happen, you can say, "I begged and begged you, and I even sent you a letter about this." That may cause a judicial review of his rulings.

Answer 6

Girl please, if you let them kids go back there, you are digging a grave for their future. I know it is hard seperating a mother from her kids, but seriously, as a women, you should know better than to let them go back there. I am pretty sure she might love her kids, but as of right now, she really needs to grow up! I mean if you want to be the bigger women, invite her over to your house for Thanksgiving. It will be hard to put up with, but just remember it's only a couple of hours out of your life that might change these kids forever!! Much luck

Answer 7

Send the letter, but also, have the oldest two send their own statements as well. 16 and 15 would have the choice of parent/gaurdian. The judge would be more interested in what they have to say than what you say, in most cases. So try it, and good luckl!

Answer 8

Call child protective services and tell them what's going on. Have them go investigate the mother. Call the local authorities and tell them about the drug dealers in the house.

Answer 9

Please do what old beatnik suggests you do. What a horrible situation to be completely helpless, knowing these kids will be surrounded by criminals. How could a judge allow this to happen? MPGTY.

Answer 10

search the web for it. like put that into any search engine and see if that works. like google, yahoo, msn, ask, or what ever you can think of. but wikipedia is the best i think.