How do you get over someone who has hurt you deeply?
took you for granted
and would have no problem hurting you again
Even though you got your revenge (didn't even really mean to, he caused it to happen for himself (dumb *** but koodoes for me))
It's been about a month since I got my revenge. (Again I didn't even plan it. Just kind of happened) and every now and then i am reminded of the pain that he caused me.
I want to get over it but i cant
I'm still angry at myself for trusting him when he didn't deserve it.
how do i get over it?
2007-11-08 14:30:57 · 16 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the best srevenge is to be successful.
you are seeking to inflict pain on this person.
you should use your effort and energy to be personally successful at whatever to choose.
forgetting that person that hurt you will only add to your success, because you will get past that pain very quickly.
don't waste energy on revenge. there is nothing to be gained.
2007-11-08 14:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by ramni222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
False. You have to *care* deeply to hurt deeply; the loss of a belief or dream can be just as painful as that of a relationship, and I would assert that what makes a love relationship potentially hurtful is not the affection but the commitment. Either way, yes it is worth it, but only if you are mature and wise enough to give thought and meaning to your commitment; the old saying is true in love as well as other strong motivations, that "if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything."
2016-04-03 03:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you never get over it. I have been hurt deeply myself by a former boyfriend. We were supposed to get married and I found out that he was cheating on me with at least 2 different women. This happened to me 4 years ago. It still hurts me when I think about it. Even though I am married now. It still bothers me that someone could be so cruel. But I have learned that we can't dwell on the past.. The past is the past. But we can learn from the past and make ourselves better persons from it. Also, if you feel like you can't handle it see a counsellor or someone with experience to help you. There are groups to join or someone in churches that can help. But dont' dwell on it. Learn from it. We have all been hurt at one point or another. Also, get with friends you can talk to it really helps. I wish you good luck. And also think on good things Things that make you happy.
2007-11-08 15:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by CB Luves Her Chihuahuas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are religious - seek God. If you are spiritual - try yoga or meditation. You have to push yourself to do empowering things. Force yourself to get in better shape. The more fit you are physically, the better you function mentally. If you continue to dwell on how bad you feel, you will lose 'the real you' and you can bring on all sorts of health problems. I know this from experience.I trusted and married and he got some other woman pregnant. Forgive and EVENTUALLY forget, but use the pain as motivation to better yourself and make yourself strong again.
2007-11-08 15:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by rubyslippers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember all the things they did to you... someone who would have no problem repeatedly hurting you doesn't deserve you anyway. You can't rush getting over any kind of feeling, time is all that will heal you. Don't be mad at yourself or regret it because at the time, it's what you wanted. Take it as a learning experience... You'll be fine!
2007-11-08 14:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Roxy1316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I knew the answer to that one myself, am still trying to get over the fact that my husband of 30 years cheated on me. I trusted him more than anyone in the world, and would have never believed that he was capable of doing the things he has done. Maybe it will get better with time, but it has been almost 3 years.
2007-11-08 15:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on... the best way to show your anger is making your today better than yesterday. After you gain your confidence back and found you actually have a better life without him. Him, is not that important for you anymore. your anger will be disappear, so, take good care of yourself, do not let him become your shadow and carry him for rest of your life. You have wasted too much time with him, so save some time for yourself and enjoy everyday in your own journey.
2007-11-08 14:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun,I'm sorry to say that you never really get over it.You just have to push it in the back of your mind and try to forget it even though its hard.I've been there and after 10 years I still have not gotten over it.The pain has gotten easier,but its just something you never really get over.Plus its hard to ever trust again but you have to try...Good luck
2007-11-08 14:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u don't ever rally get over it but the pain does ease after a time. forgive yourself for trusting him, as how could u have known, we really never know anyone.
2007-11-08 23:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You best revenge would be to carry on with your life and be happy. Time heals all wounds. He doesn't care, why should you? Ask yourself that.
2007-11-08 14:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋