We have been married for 30+yrs and he has discovered going to strip clubs....Of course, this takes money....its not cheap, but then he thinks I shouldn't be upset and I really don't know if I should be upset. I am upset...like now I am sitting here asking you this question and he left to go there....I am not getting any younger and I want to be happy.....What are your thoughts?
2007-11-08 14:08:42 · 22 answers · asked by Annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for all your thoughts.....I guess after 35 yrs I shouldn't complain....its just that we live in a small town, everybody talks...
2007-11-08 15:19:58 · update #1
If was married for 30+ years and did that, I would expect the locks to be changed on the door when I got home.
2007-11-10 11:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I my self go to strip clubs , About once or twice a year, Yes the cost is very high. I would like to know more. Like why he has all the sudden started going ,exc? I have friends that go all the time . But thy are single. I know this dose not help you . But I Would like to know why he started going. Strip clubs dont do a darn thing for me. My wife gives me a lap dance for free. We have been Married for 32 years . We are at the ripe old age of 51.
2007-11-08 23:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by coupleMa&Dl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if your upset you really need to make that clear to him. I personally wouldn't mind if my husband went, but that means I go to male strip clubs with my friends and I know he would NOT like that. Maybe you two can come up with a deal? Definitely talk to him about it, good luck to you.
2007-11-08 22:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by kcswifey79 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never could understand the attraction to a strip club. Like going to a restaurant, ordering food, they bring it, let you look at it,take it away, then they make you pay for it..
It all seems so pointless
2007-11-08 22:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are expensive. But I think it's a normal think for a guy, no matter what his age to go once in a while. If he is going weekly or every night, I would have a problem. Have you asked to go with him? I'm sure watching women take their clothes off doesn't sound like a turn on to you, but his reaction can give you more information. If he says you can go with him, you probably don't have much to worry about. But if he refuses and gets upset, there may be a problem. By the way, if he does say yes, go. Then maybe you can figure out why he enjoys it, or even learn a few things to spice up your own sex life! Good luck!
2007-11-08 22:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by rtcrbn 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I hate the term gentlemen club. I would find it very irritating. If we did something together like watch porn then it would be ok. The fact that he is leaving to do this is a little disturbing. I'd have a long chat with him. Good Luck.
2007-11-08 22:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by Macca ♥ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry I am saying this but after 30 years together and he is just now going...that should say a lot to you. Also, husbands shouldn't go to begin with, but after 30 years. Good luck.
2007-11-08 22:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some of these clubs are fronts for prostitution. So he's getting rubbed by some hot 19-year-olds? Big deal at this point in your relationship. Let him have his fun. Believe me, these women do not want to marry him.
2007-11-08 22:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle W 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
2 can play this game. You go out to a Ladies club and see how he likes it. Or at least say that is where you are going - and go hang out with some girlfriends, or make new girlfriends.
Hopefully he isn't paying too much attention to a particular stripper. 30+ is a long time with one person and he may be feeling a bit...twitchy...and the club feeds that twitch.
Going from time to time is okay, but if it is interfering with life, that is something else.
2007-11-08 22:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by texansis 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think that he is being very disrespectful to you and to the commitment of your marriage. You need to have a serious talk with him and let him know how you are feeling. Sounds like maybe he's trying to get a little spice back in his life....maybe you could find a way to do that together?!?!
2007-11-08 22:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋