2007-11-08 14:03:11 · 26 answers · asked by finally solo35 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess it depends on what she specifically means. Does she want a divorce or does she want a change in your relationship? Does she mean financially or emotionally? Regardless, she clearly wants some kind of change. This being the case, and once you've determined exactly what kind of change she wants, you have to decide if this is a route that you're willing to go. This is, of course, assuming separation is not what she means. If it is, you really have no choice.
2007-11-08 14:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by CUrias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Bless her that she put up with NO independence for 17 years! Everyone needs some independence and if you love each other, there should be no problem with trust. If you are the jealous/possessive type, you will eventually lose her anyway because no human being should be on a leash (leashes are for animals). Here's a poem for you: "If you love something, set it free, If it comes back to you, it is yours, If it does not, it was never meant to be". Put her to the test and see if she really loves you. You might be surprised, she might love you more and be a happier person if you give her some breathing space.
2007-11-08 14:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good divorce lawyer. Do not give her anything before going to court. Anything you give her now will be considered a gift and will not be considered part of the marriage.
If she wants out there isn't a whole lot you can do unless she wants go along with any suggestion. Like marriage counseling.
2007-11-08 14:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5-7 times a day is not truly normal. The normal is as her doctor said, 3-5 times a week. My husband and I have gone a week without sex before just due to the stress of life; Kids, finances, ect. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your wife. I'm amazed she has done what she has done for you. There is a thing called sex addiction, and honestly you may want to look at it. When sex overtakes your life...It's time to get help. don't take it offensively. It is a very real condition Some experts believe that sexual addiction is literally an addiction, directly analogous to alcohol and drug addictions. Other experts believe that sexual addiction is actually a form of obsessive compulsive disorder and refer to it as sexual compulsivity
2016-03-14 05:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. The worse thing to do is to go running after her. Women usually aren't attracted to sniveling, needy men. Women are attracted to men that are confident in themselves. You go about your business and she will see soon enough that the grass isn't any greener. My ex (after 18 years) found an unemployed, pot smoking, long haired individual more exciting than me. She now is locked into a new marriage that has her under his thumb, he still is "layed off", and plays video games all day. My advice is to become independent yourself. Especially with your finances. Dr. Ed Wheat wrote a book called, "How to save your marriage - alone". It is a small paperback with sound Biblical teachings. You do your part and honor your marriage.
2007-11-08 14:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Rick S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well let her go. you cant hold anyone down and if thats what she really wantsthen she isnt worth it in the end anyway. ifyou love someone and marry that person it is suppose to be for life. she probably thought you would have died by now. she must have been thinking about this for a long time. why now why like this? i think there is something going on here. look more into it before she leaves with the house and cars. good luck.
2007-11-08 14:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you think she deserves it? Be fair and kind and give her half of everything. Wish her well.
I have a feeling she has not felt happy for a long time. How brave of her to go it alone after all this time.
2007-11-08 14:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by independence? Does she want to do things on her own or does she want to leave you? Either way I guess you have to let her go and explore her independence.
2007-11-08 14:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Also, get counseling yourself. This is going to be hard. You'll get there, but it'll be a million times easier if someone's there to help.
And pray. Do lots and lots of praying.
It'll be ok, but not for a while.
2007-11-08 14:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably tired of cooking, cleaning, cooking, cleaning. Two ungrateful jobs that no one acknowledges. She may just want to be a part of life outside the beautiful box she created for you and your kids. You the saying "if mama's not happy...no one is happy". LOL! Encourage with love!
2007-11-08 14:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋