I have been married for five years now and we have two kids. When I was pregnant with my frist son I decied to be a stay at home mom. I do side jobs a couple times a week to pull in money. We fight all the time. Our sex life is not so great either. He only wants sex in the middle of the night when I'm asleep at night and never any other time. I told him this and he says I'm just being silly. We got in a fight tonight and he takes a shower and leaves without saying a word. I don't know what to think, he don't say I love you anymore or kiss me. He seems angry at me all the time. I sometimes thinks the reason he don't leave me is because of spiting up the kids he has said way back when he don't believe in spiting up kids from there parents. What should I do. Should I worry and what are the signs of cheating I don't know if it's me or something is really going on.
2007-11-08 13:49:59 · 16 answers · asked by Tara Elaine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've tried to be more intmate with him but he pushes me away.. when he does want it I'm half asleep and he half the time is drunk!
2007-11-09 02:22:16 · update #1
also he works in a womens college dorm.
2007-11-09 02:24:05 · update #2
I give him sex when he wants but it's only in the middle of the night.... I've tryed to get him to do it other times but he always says he's not in the mood at those times
2007-11-09 02:27:43 · update #3
If you feel it, then he is. There's nothing you can do until it hits you in the face, so just sit back and wait. If he really is, then it will eventually come out.
2007-11-08 14:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, he might be. It sounds like he is agravated and he needs some alone time. Let things cool down and give him a little space. Don't tell him no when he asks for sex, even if it's in the middle of the night. What you won't do the next chick will. Don't give him a reason to cheat. Sex him so good that he won't want to look at another chick when he leaves the house...
2007-11-08 22:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by KSR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me. But my reason is not to pay a lazy woman with no priorities or standards child support. I'd say he's cheating because I'm going through the same things. But believe me it goes both ways, there are things that you are doing wrong also. The husbands have feelings too and often are not considered by the wife. On the other hand, he may not be and give you the signs for you to get your act together. Do what he wants and see if things change. Having sex while you're sleep is the best time not to hear you all gripe and say I'm not in the mood. I usually grudge my wife after I bang my girlfriend to keep her suspicions down. Don't take the truth too hard.
2007-11-08 21:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Big Meat 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry to tell you this but to me that is a sign of cheating. The signs are obviously there.
He hardly kisses you.
He hardly tells you he loves you.
Your sex life is not at it's best.
He leaves without telling you goodbye.
He's taking a shower before he leaves.
I mean who the hell showers before they leave? Unless he was doing something like gardening or working out. I'm sorry this is happening to you. You may need to have someone follow him around.
Other signs are:
He takes a shower when he comes home.
He will always carry his cell phone with him everywhere he goes.
He is always text messaging all the time.
Stains on his clothes or the smell of perfume or lipstick.
Finding condoms hidden somewhere like the car or in his pocket.
I don't mean to scare you sweetie but I hope for your sake and for your children he is not cheating.
2007-11-09 01:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion some tell tale signs are......
turns off the cellphone or puts it on silent when your around
sexually distant
it seems as though everything you do annoys him
takes a shower as soon as he gets home from being out
spending more money with no explanation
grooming private areas that were never groomed before
buying new clothes...especially underwear
tells you that you don't appreciate him and you ungrateful.
Check his text messages while hes asleep...unless of course hes really slick and deletes them all.
Good luck
2007-11-08 22:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by hidin nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wakes in the middle of the night for sex it is probably because of a dream he had and he needs sex for a "release".
That said, the rest of your question is a scream that he is unhappy and it is only going to get worse without some sort of intervention (i.e. councelling). A sign that he is cheating would be if he is accusing you of cheating on him. It's a psychological response to feelings of guilt to lay the blame on you for the infidelities. I feel it is easier on the children to split when they are younger if this becomes neccessary.
Dont feel trapped, there are all sorts of resources for women that can be accesed by calling your local police department.
2007-11-08 22:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jason J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be cheating. If he's not horny earlier in the night, he may not be recharged yet from sex earlier in the day. Do you smell another girl on him when he gets home? Trying seducing him when he gets home, dress all sexy, talk dirty, and see if he gets aroused. Or he could just be angry because you turn him down so much at night for sex.
2007-11-08 21:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
signs of cheating..............
he is working late but you wont see the money on his check, he says they messed up on his check,
he is visiting family more often without you,
he smells of purfume,
he cant find his ring or lost it and is in no hurry to buy another one,
he has money missing or lost it,
he takes phone calls and walks out of the room,
he has new female friends,
he goes out to drink but doesnt invite you because he claims you dont have money for a baby sitter,
he is doing alot of work around his moms house,
he takes a change of clothes with his,
he has lost hours where you cant find him.,
he hides his cell phone records,
you cant find him at lunch,
he is going on work related trips but never went on them before,
he picks fights just to leave the house,
he doesnt want to spend family time,
he doesnt want to spend time with you,
sex is slower than slow,
he doesnt rememeber your birthday or anniversary anymore,
he gets mad when you go out,
he accuses you of cheating,
he doesnt want ot be bothered,
he always goes out ot run errands alone,
thats when you know he is a cheater!!!!!
2007-11-08 22:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously there are issues in the marriage. You need to talk to him and be completely honest about how you are feeling. I think maybe some marriage counselor would be helpful.
2007-11-08 22:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what's wrong with women. Guys LIKE sex. If you're not having sex with him, what's HE supposed to think?
No offense, but to me it seems like you're driving him away.
2007-11-08 21:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tom C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋