I am to the point that I just don't care anymore. I'm not depressed or anything really, I am just tired. I am 15 weeks pregnant with my 5th baby, I can't keep up with the house work, I can't keep up with the laundry, I have noooooo energy, and all I want to do is sit and veg. with my other kiddos. My husband understands what I am saying but I know that it is getting to him. He works sooooo hard for us and I feel like I am not keeping up my end of the deal. He works 12-14 hours a day 5-6 days a week and is going out of town next week. I would really like to have some energy but can't seem to get any.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Ideas?
TIA
2007-11-08 13:39:03 · 11 answers · asked by Hey Wife!!!!! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just for the record this pg was NOT planned. It was a total suprise, and we have delt with that aspect. My husband has taken care of the BC portion of things.LOL!
We don't have family close enough to help and i would hate to burden them, these kiddos and our home are our responsibility. My husband works the way he does for many reasons, but avoiding his responsibilities is not one of them, he does take on the kids when he gets home if they are not in bed already, and most weekends when he is home he deals with them so i can relax. I didn't mean to make it sound like he doesn't help, he does what he can.
2007-11-08 13:55:59 · update #1
Don't worry, it's probably nothing big medically. Your doc would have let you know if he saw any vitamin/iron deficiencies and it doesn't seem like depression...just more like this is your 5th baby and you're tired! My best friend has four and she says that each baby knocks you on your butt sooner and sooner...and from what I can tell that is true, although I'm only on my second I'm definately more tired a lot sooner than I was with our son!
I completely bow to your superior pregnancy knowledge (after 5 kids you definately know what you're doing), but if I could suggest something that works for me I would say to have your kids (or your husband on his day off if your other children aren't old enough) pitch in for a weekly deep clean day where everyone just goes crazy and gets everything done-sweeping, moping, dusting, every stitch of laundry...EVERYTHING. Also do your major weekly errands (like grocery shopping) on deep clean day. Then throughout the rest of the week you can just focus on maintainance cleaning (picking up, wiping the counters down, sweeping once or twice, etc.).
Also-maintainance cleaning is a lot easier for us (my son and I-I'm with you on the whole my hubby works too hard thing!) during the week because we have two designated "pick up" times each day. Before naptime and before bedtime every day we pick everything up and wipe down the counters and do the light cleaning (my son helps a lot actually, that's "his job" and he actually LIKES having a job cause then he feels like he's like daddy!). Between pick up times my house pretty much goes to chaos-but at the moment I'm so tired I don't care...and at the end of the day when my husband gets home the house is clean and that's what matters to me.
I hope that helps! Good luck to you and congrats on your 5th baby!!
2007-11-08 13:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any suggestions cuz I am in the same boat. well not exactly I'm only on third baby. But my hubby works all day then comes home and has to take care of stuff around the house. I just really don't have the energy to do anything. I hate when I have to leave the house. Good luck hopefully it gets better!!!
2007-11-08 13:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5th baby! Whoa! No wonder you're tired!
Don't feel bad. You are working super hard for your husband too. Taking care of all those kids is a 24 hour a day job, and you're carrying one on top of it! So put the guilt part out of your mind.
Is there someone that can help you? Watch the other kids while you take a day and sleep, or do what makes you happy?
2007-11-08 13:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, hello? 5 kids? No wonder you are tired, and that husband that works to stay away and not do his share is certainly not helping any either.
Get a clue here...too many babies wear you out, rob you of a life and strain your finances and marriage. Let this be the last little mouth to feed so you can begin to recover from all of this insanity!
Birth control is a wonderful thing. Never let anyone tell you God does not want you to prevent a pregnancy to keep your sanity. The Lord loves His girls and does not want us to kill ourselves giving birth every year. Our bodies were not designed to have more than a few children, did you know that?
The next thing you do is to tell that husband to stop avoiding his duties at home. Being to work only 5 day, limit his hours to no more than 8 and be a husband and a father to all those children he has helped to bring into this world. Take care.
2007-11-08 13:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, I had these EXACT same feelings right after I gave birth. Just feeling of inadequacy, and not feeling like I'm pulling my weight. There wasn't much I could do about the feelings so I just kind of went with the flow. It's been 7 weeks now and most of the feeling went away, so my best advice is don't be too hard on yourself, you have a full time job as it is with your kids and another on the way.
2007-11-08 13:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by chispa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are eating right.
If you can, have someone take the kids for a few hours so you can have some time to yourself.
A nice warm bath works wonders!!!
Try to do something for you, I know it is hard, but I hope you have family or friends near by that wont mind babysitting for a bit.
2007-11-08 13:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel...i am 14 weeks with # 3. i have a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old. some days i have no energy at all. unlike you though, my husband doesnt understand and thinks im making it up and lying about feeling crappy. i dont have any advice because im going through the same thing. but just wanted to let you know your not alone :)
2007-11-08 14:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Tessa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is no wonder you are exhausted. I only have one little one and I am tired. Don't be too hard on yourself, looking after 4 kids while you are pregnant must be draining. Do you have any family nearby? Maybe your mom or someone could come over and give you a hand.
2007-11-08 13:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are low in iron, that can cause a lot of what you are experiencing...see your doctor and ask for some supplements that are safe during pregnancy.
2007-11-08 13:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iwould call your docter and ask if theres any safe vitamins or anything else that would help boost ur energy thats safe with the pregnancy ...tell them exactly what u have written here
2007-11-08 13:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by somegirl15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋