2007-11-08 13:38:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes.
Not much secret caring going on in the world of unplanned paternity. They either openly care or they don't.
I resent the answerer below with the "guys don't like the responsibility" crack. Some do, some don't...but don't paint us all with the same brush.
2007-11-08 13:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy and his matrutiy level. I know my boyfriend reacted that way with both of our kids when I first got pregnant. He was of course scared as heck and so was I. Our last scare was much different though, he was scared because we are trying to prevent and are not in a financial position to provide for another child (we obviously would if we needed to though) but he was there for me and told me no matter what we would get through it and all of that. It was really sweet and a huge change from 3 years ago. THat is why I say it has to do with the guy and his maturity level. it also will depend on the type of relationship the man and the lady have.
To Lisa E why are you lumping all teen moms into one group? I was a teen mom but I am supporting myself and my family without the help of welfare, do some research before you try to lump everyone into the category you're most likely in.
2007-11-08 21:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by ashlee91977 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not common for men to say they dont care. And men do not dislike responsibility of taking care of a child. These two things said about "men" meaning "all men" is generalizing and making those men who step up look like crap. So thats just flat out not true. There are men who love children, many men in fact. More man than dont. Then there are jerks who either say things in shock or say things because they really are cruel. If you know this man, which I assume you do, know his heart you should be able to discern whether it was said in the heat of the moment when he was caught off guard and scared (because men do get scared too) or if he really is cruel. If its that he's cruel, get out and get out fast. You don't want your baby to be verbally or even physically abused, if he doesn't care about the baby.
2007-11-08 21:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by pinkenvelope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you're doing "casual" sex, or just pretending...know what I mean?
If it is an actual relationship and tyhe urges are controlled, then the child will be wanted.
But just having sex to get off will get you pregnant with noone to care.
If he did say he doesn't care, then I would say he doesn't. Abortion is always an option. Sometimes best.
2007-11-08 22:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by bahbdorje 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not difficult for a guy to walk away and pretend he has no responsibility for a child born out of wedlock. It happens quite often. Just look at all the single mothers, and single TEEN mothers out there. The welfare system is full of them.
Sure, there are guys who WANT to be responsible, who care about the child and the mother, but especially young guys...I guarantee you, statistically...most don't stick around for long.
Ashley, you need to step off your pedestal girlfriend. Don't tell me I need to research anything. I was a teen mother LONG before it was 'popular'. In fact, I was the first girl EVER to graduate from my high school, pregnant. I had to fight that battle so girls like you could attend! Before I fought them, they kicked girls out of school for that! . His father didn't pay support, I had no where to live, I had NO help WHATSOEVER from my parents (who kicked me out) and I worked my butt off and raised my son by working 2 and 3 jobs at a time. So don't tell ME that I don't know what I'm talking about. Not ALL teen mothers end up on welfare, but that's not the point, is it? MANY DO. Why? Because the GUY WALKS OUT! Now YOU do some research and let me know the statistics on teen marriages lasting more than 5 years...and how many single teen mothers are out there, compared to teen mothers who HAVE the father standing by them.
2007-11-08 21:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
thats hard to say, depends on the guy, and the girl and the relationship. if they arent in love the guy could just say he doesnt care so he doesnt have to take responsibility. he if does love her and says he doesnt care, maybe he doesnt mean it and said it cuz he was scared
2007-11-08 22:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that all depends on the man. I am a father and care for my kids a great deal. i think i am a good person and alot of the world is full of good people
call me a romantic but i think there is still alot of good in this world.
2007-11-08 21:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man who cared would not tell the mother of his baby that he doesn't care.
If he said it, he meant it. He's trying to be deliberately hurtful. This isn't the kind of man you want in your life.
2007-11-08 21:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah! I can speak from experience! He's not the kind of influence you want in your child's life, so don't push it! Good luck!
2007-11-08 21:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by ♥CarolinaMommy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya cuz guys dont like the responsibility of taking care of a child
2007-11-08 21:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋