My husband woke me up on a holiday, and I got all irritated at him bcoz I don't like waking up early on holidays and I screamed at him. I think the bad mood remained the whole day. I didn't eat the breakfast he made (to make up probably), refused to go out with him that day. He was home all day and I hardly talked to him. I refused to kiss him all day. He said sorry (even tho it was not his fault) and the stupid me just asked him to go away. At night I obviously said no to IT, but we had planned about a week ago that we will do it that night.
Now I feel bad, he isn't talking and I want to say I am sorry and I wan't him to talk to me! Whats the best waY?
Plz - If I have a bad mood in the morning I have it all day.
2007-11-08 13:11:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like something I've done. I thought you probably should have a romantic evening for him. My husband says that just having sex would make him happy and no talking afterwords (I censored his answer for the purpose of posting this message).
2007-11-08 13:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by thesees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to figure out exactly why you are so irritated with him. If it IS because you woke up the wrong way I think you need to re-evaluate what you should be thankful for in life. Maybe go out and talk to some homeless people that wake up cold, wet, and hungry every morning. It's a shame that it took you all day to realize that you were being childish. Also, you two had it "planned" for a week when you were going to have sex? Look at that too...don't plan so much and just do it.
All you can do is apologize to him and do thinsg to show him how sorry you are...cook him a meal and have sex with him like you two had planned.
2007-11-08 13:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds as if you need to do some growing up. Literally screaming at your husband because he woke you up early is not a good enough excuse. You basically pouted all day because you didn't get your way. Then you paid for it. It doesn't matter what your age is. Now you have to make up for it. You need to talk to him, tell him your sorry. There is no 'How to' to it, just do it!
I assume your not going to like most of the answers people will give you. I think you might get a lot of "Grow up"s. You asked, we answered.
By the way, have you ever thought he probably woke you up to do something FOR YOU? Ever had sex first thing in the morning? Wake up and its the first thing you do. It's wonderful. Give it a try! :))
Good luck chickadee.
2007-11-08 13:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol you actually plan what days you are going to have sex?
So you want to say you're sorry, then just say it! You are obviously really stubborn and hate admitting when you were wrong (im the same way, so i get it).
Just explain to him how you are NOT a morning person... im pretty sure that'll be the last time he wakes you up anyway.
Tell him it wasn't his fault and that you weren't mad at HIM but mad at the feeling you had all day from waking up too early and that you are sorry he got treated that way in the process.
Then... go have make up sex, planned or not! =p
2007-11-08 13:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by beyawnsay1061 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to apologize to him and ask his help to find out what makes you wake up in a bad mood like that. There may be some reason for that which is medical - for example if you don't sleep well at night. I will give you a link to start a search and perhaps you can even find a way that he can wake you early without upsetting you, like turning on your favorite radio station and then giving you time to wake up. Good Luck and sleep well!!
2007-11-08 13:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to get over it when you find yourself in a bad mood. If I were your husband, after that display, I would see to that I never woke you up. I would hope that you slept all day for my own sanity.
Typically, if I get upset over something, I get over it after a little bit and move on. Taking it from morning to night, ruining your day and the night's activities is just childish.
Sincerely apologizing for some people is difficult. Practice until you get it down. Until you get a handle on that anger of yours, you will probably need to be doing a lot of apologizing.
2007-11-08 13:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you already know what the problem is. You just have to solve your problem. Really if you think about it, what good did it do you to be in a bad mood all day...Try differnet things in the morning to change your moods. Listen to soft music or spiritual music. Something to relax your mind. Plan out your morning,,,,try to spruce up your morning......with givin your husband breakfast in bed. And what is this, it sounds as if you made a date to have sex with your husband. What is up with that? Dont make plans a head of time for you's to have sex. Be spontaneous.......Let your hair down,,,,,,,kick the shoes off....Make it fun and romantic......I bet if you made him a nice romantic dinner and so on. Get the candles out and so on. Let your mood take you away......Try to smile alot....Do and exercise and try smiling alot in the morning.,Look at yourself in the mirror and smile......Just to let yourself know what you actually look like........dont let the mood get the best of you.....You can change it........If you want to,, and how bad you want to..........
2007-11-08 13:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by Latty D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
souds like you're trying to defend yourself by saying "if I wake up in a bad mood I'm like that all day" . Grow up - you CONTROL and CHOOSE your behavior - it doesn't control you. He has every right to be mad and ignore you. There are worse things in this world that a husband could do besides wake you up early. I'm sure many people here would tell you that. Beg for his forgiveness, hope he gives it to you, and NEVER do it again!
2007-11-08 13:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Care♥ mommy 2 my boys 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to start putting your husbands feelings before your own. Pick your battles.. if you get mad at him for every little thing he does then you will both be unhappy.
Insted of worrying how to say sorry maybe find a way to try and change. Put him before yourself and he will put you before him self :)
JUST be honest with him
2007-11-08 13:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by meowmeow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really really hurt him, screaming? thats too much seek some anger management
as far as an apology make his favorite dish and have make up sex
2007-11-08 13:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋