How do I become more personable? I just don't think I'm a very warm person, and I want to be. I?

Answer 1

try humour with your friends and try to stay cool when u are in a hostile environment !

Answer 2

Your not with people that interest you>Joke around more being serious will get you in spots you don't want to be in and if you say something than it's hard to get out of>Be warm with some 1 your alone with and care about>Know what your talking about when talking>That will make you look like you have a brain an personable>

Answer 3

miss manners has written an excellent series of books on how to gracefully become more personable. there is also a priceless book called 'first impressions' that is one of the best books on manners ever written. it is only a couple of years old. here is one way to become more personable, when you are with another person in a situation where the two of you are going to be working or playing together, whatever, you be the first to extend your hand, and say, with a nice calm smile, clearly say, how do you do? my name is ( your name) you have now broken the ice and established yourself as a pleasant kind person. read those books and you will be an expert in effortlessly becoming a more personable person, an admirable quest and one that is essential for success in the world today. good luck.

Answer 4

There are important changes you can make and probably lots of little things.
One is your response to other people. You should actively listen, ask questions and restate what they've said to help them know that you've heard and understood what they've said (even if you don't agree with it. You can throw your opinion in there but people really care that theirs was at least heard and understood same goes for feelings.) Body language is important, lean towards the person when they are talking, don't cross your arms try to keep good eye contact and be cautious of your facial expressions. (people read more into body language then actual words)

The second thing is what you offer to other people. This comes into bounderies. You want to be open with people, and not afraid to be real with them. But if you go over board you can push people away. People do want to see that you have feelings and they want the chance to care about you. But deeper issues should be worked out with a therapist, and learning whats appropriate to share, and what should be really talked with a licensed therapist is something you can talk about with a therapist.
I hope I was helpful

Answer 5

Just be sincere, don't try to go overboard with fake emotions, or fake concerns to come across personable. Just make sure that all your interatctions are sincere. For instance, if someone has on a nice shirt, don't try to walk up and ask them where they got their shirt from, and hold a 15 min convo w/ them trying to pretend you care about the shirt more than you really do. Just say very nice shirt! and keep it moving. That was personable enough, and true to you

Answer 6

Try volunteering.

The more experiences you have to share and talk about..the easier time you will have finding the confidence to carry on a conversation.

Exercise.

Physical confidence will help you warm up to people as well since you won't be self conscious.

Smile and look them in the eye.

People like people who make them feel like they are interesting enough to pay attention to and good about themselves.

Read more.

A command of the language and how to use it will give you confidence as well.

Answer 7

Just be yourself. Be proud of who you are. If you think you’re suffering from depression or something, then make an appointment with a counselor that can help you. There’s nothing wrong with you. Perhaps you have a lot of fear? Maybe you’re shy? Until you reach a point in your life where you completely overcome your fears, you won’t be able to truly be yourself and thus, will constantly be controlled by your own doubts.

Answer 8

the most important thing to remember is that you are who you are. now, if you want to change a little to be warmer.. id say just be friendly to people and smile.
but really.. if you find yourself not doing so well with this..leave it alone.
i myself arent that "warm" but hey thats me.. the way i see it is 'be yourself cause the people who care dont matter and the people who matter dont care' cause in the end.. ppl that critisize you arent worth it.. but ppl that get to kno you are = D
i went a little off topic but i hope this helps.

Answer 9

Smile.

Answer 10

Foxinsox has the right answer(s).