Hope this isn't too personal, but (fellas) has a girl ever called you months later and said..............?

Question

she was pregnant? There's this girl I stopped messing with around July. She called me a couple days ago and told me she was three months pregnant. Now my first reaction was to start counting the months (I think you know why.) But she assured me that it wasn't mine (heart was pounding.) Anyway, she was telling me about how her dude treats her bad and how she wants to leave him. Now, she is telling me how she misses me and wants to get back together. I told a female friend of mines and she said that maybe she just wants a friend. I don't think I can buy it. I think I'm being set up to play a "stepfather" role. I told her we could be cool and all, but I'm not trying to go down that road. I've never been in this situation before. What would you do? I don't think I'm being selfish, but am I? Just want an opinion. Ladies you can chime in too.

Answer 1

I think that she's feeling confused and sorry for herself right now. That being said, maybe she just wanted to voice her frustrations and (hopefully) isn't serious about leaving him. If you guys are friendly, I'd lend an ear, but I'd be wary about meeting face to face (especially not alone). Point is, you can be cordial and keep your distance at the same time without coming off as a *****.

Answer 2

If there ever was a time to have the right to be selfish, it's right now. If you have a problem with a stepfather role, stay true to that feeling and don't get involved with her again in that way. It's terribly hard on a child to lose a parent or even a parent figure if you went against your true feelings and got involved, and then the two of you break up down the road.

Answer 3

Well, if she just wanted to be friend's she wouldn't have said that she missed you and wanted to get back together... So, I'd say, ya, she wants you to step into some kind of role, and no it isn't being selfish on your part to not want to be cast into that role... the relationship is over between you two, why should you feel selfish for not wanting to be with someone that is pregnant with another man's child...In my opinion, I would tell her that you understand and feel for her in her situation, but it is not your responsibility to take up where someone else has left off, it wouldn't be fair to anyone, especially you... stand up for yourself, this chick is wrong to ask such things of you...

Answer 4

From a woman's point of view. She's really vunerable and she needs a guy that treated her well around. She may not want you as a "stepfather" role but she might end up relying on you a lot if you step up to the plate.

I don't think you're being selfish. You have to think about yourself as well.

Answer 5

I would make sure that it is yours before you take any action at all. It is horrible to say, but some girls realize that the baby's dad won't be a good dad, so they try to think about someone else who would. I'm not saying that is the case, but you should check it out.

Even if it is yours, you have no obligations to date her again.

You are not being selfish. This is a lot to deal with for you. I really hope everything works out...

Answer 6

ok..I admit to putting one of my exes in this situation. She is scared, and needs a security blanket since she is 3 months pregnant and scared and now alone. Be her friend if u wish, but don't lead her on at all that you are into the baby thing or she might think u want to be a stepdad. I just needed a friend since i was choosing an alternative option. good luck.

Answer 7

Stay completely away from her, dude. There is a reason she is an "ex." You weren't meant to be together. If that child isn't yours, don't even acknowledge her. I'm not implying you should be a jerk, but even if your intentions are to be friends, it won't work. That chapter of your life is over, and it's over for her as well. That doesn't mean being rude to her, just wish her the best and move on.

Answer 8

sounds like she is planning on having the child, ( that's good, at least she wont be a child murderer and have an abortion )
Just being cool with her is fine, you never know, you might learn a few things along the way, but right now it sounds like she needs a few friends. let the friendship develop, you may never know what kind of a picture comes out of the friendship.

Answer 9

Be her friend if shes a good person. You don't have to play daddy! If she starts to act like it, tell her you don't want to play a big role in the childs life.

Answer 10

you rather ought to do what you think of is sweet, yet you may attempt a number of this. i think it is what i could do if I have been a woman (i'm on my sisters account). path individually, i could see if he had to be in a relationship, if he did no longer i could say he did no longer like me sufficient. the 1st element to do is meet with him and get his area. in line with threat he's overly shy. Who is familiar with. Anythings a danger. next in case you nevertheless want him: 1st Ask him if he rather needs you with him (from what you assert he will say sure) 2d see if he needs to get right into a relationship, and if he says no, i could drop him, even though it is your determination. third laydown some policies he will ought to stick to. unlike rules or something which will make him experience imprisoned. Thigs like "communicate on the telephone" 4th you may desire to tell him each and every thing you merely mentioned. And tell no longer textual content textile. call him one hundred cases in case you ought to. do no longer enable him make any excuses like "have been given to bypass, yet i will communicate with you later" or "supply me a 2d" and notably if he says "enable me think of". Why enable me think of? If he has to think of, for sure he's the two making up lies, stalling, or attempting to establish yet another situation to distract you. 5th If each and every thing works out carry him to his notice. do no longer enable him think of that merely because of the fact what ever befell, befell that he can bypass lower back to how he became.