What is the definition of a "submissive" wife?

Question

Tera: Your story is unfortunate, but I'm glad you got out of the situation and you turned your life around :)

OK. Here is the dictionary definition of submissive:
submissive

adjective
1. inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination; "submissive servants"; "a submissive reply"; "replacing troublemakers with more submissive people" [ant: domineering]
2. abjectly submissive; characteristic of a slave or servant; "slavish devotion to her job ruled her life"; "a slavish yes-man to the party bosses"-

Yeah, I believe a lot of definitions are very biblical--nothing wrong with it tho'....whatever floats your boat.

Answer 1

I used to be one, so I guess I can answer this. I didn't argue anything with my husband. His word was always the final word on everything. In fact, often I repressed my conflicting emotions (conflicting because there were times I often wanted to disagree, but felt I could not without there being very negative consequences.) To me, it was just easier to keep the peace. However, I can say that after fifteen years of this, there was definite damage done to my psychological health. I was diagnosed with major depression, panic disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, and agoraphobia. The constant repression of my thoughts, feelings, beliefs, goals, dreams, desires, needs, all took it's toll. I no longer felt like a "real" human being. I felt like a robot. I had no sense of self. I didn't even know what I wanted. I was numb. The momentary peace I bought with my silence really only served to prolong the conflicts that remained unresolved inside of me. I sacrificed myself, literally, for what I thought was the "good" of our relationship. It is only now after six years of being on my own have I come to truly realize the impact (the damage done), not only to myself, but to my kids who looked to me as a role model. It will take years to undo. Being submissive is a strategy for coping but it is not the best strategy in the long run. Psychological stress that results from this can truly make a person ill- not just mentally, but physically, as well.

Answer 2

Submissive Definition

Answer 3

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My definition of wife, and this is about my wife, is a woman who's confident in herself, but also loving, respectful, trusting, caring, supportive, understanding, but also able to give some tough love when I do something wrong. My wife accepted me for who I am, and not for something that I'm not.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Every woman should stop trying to control her husband, cease all criticism of him, learn not to interrupt and definitely apologize if she becomes "disrespectful." and of course this is re enforced by the Biblical verse Ephesians 5:22 - how wives should "submit" to their husbands. All I can say there were no women at the meeting when this rule was made. Patriarchal laws, no longer apply to the balanced roles of masculine and feminine.

Answer 6

The Greek word in Ephesians, translated "submission" is "hypotasso." This word might well be translated, "Strength under control." Think Navy Seals...they are submissive, obeying and respecting the Officers above them, and the laws of the military (it IS called "military service." But they are not weak, wimpy, walked on or taken advantage of.

Jesus was "submissive" to the Father, even unto death. Jesus was submissive to his earthly parents. He taught his followers to be "servants to all" which means being submissive. It is meant to esteem others as yourself, to show respect, concern and compassion and to be a part of an orderly home and society, freely, cooperatively, and for the good of the marriage, the family and the society at large. It does not mean a husband can be abusive, controlling, belittling or use guilt to control. The husband is to love his wife "as Christ loved the Church" (he died for the salvation of others.) This means the husband is to model sacrificial, servant-leadership in the home.

Answer 7

submissive = good

a submissive wife = a good wife. ;-)

Am also in agreement with Steve_sider's definition.

Answer 8

Generally in the Western world it's not as bad as it sounds. Usually it refers to devotees of "The Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle. The book is suprisingly smart and has some great advice. For example, Don't try to "mommy" your husband, don't tell him how to drive, don't criticise his skills in "manly stuff", etc. It may sound like she wants women to be timid little mice, but it's more like she wants us to be KIND.

Basically, don't be a control freak or overly critical. I left some of her advice by the wayside (Have hubby handle the finances) because it just doesn't fit our family. But "submissive" in that context means "accepting your hubby as he is", which is actually pretty smart.

The term is also used in Christian circles. I'm not Christian, so I'll leave that to others to define.

Answer 9

One day "divorcee" wife. Sooner or later.

Answer 10

It's a woman who gives in to her husband and molds her identity with his. She doesn't have any activities or interests outside of his and her whole world revolves around him. The problem with such an arrangement is that nobody respects a doormat. They are used and abused but not respected.

Answer 11

i've learned that a wife must know her role towards husband. it's like a slave must submit to master as well as wife submit to husband. the husband is the head of the family therefore he has the authority to his wife. base on the bible, this is only applicable to the wife who made wedding vows, not the common-law wife. its says, "..wife submit to husband..." BUT "...husband honor your wife..." and vise versa...

refer to NIV 1Corinthians chapter 14 and Galatians chapter 4

i hope this can help...