and friends?
2007-11-08 12:41:42 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I am so sorry Gaillee, but happy you have new found friendship.
2007-11-08 13:10:43 · update #1
Daisy, I do not have to imagine! As of last year, I am the only living member of my (paternal/maternal) family. I can tell you, this leaves you a very changed person! I miss them all.
As for friends, some of them have passed away as well. I do have newer friends and am so very grateful they are in my life!
2007-11-08 12:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
Yes I can imagine, because I lost my ex sister-in-law, at 19, my dad, at 20, my mom at 25, and my only sibling, a older brother, at 30. I was raising two children, had just gone through a divorce and had custody of my 16 year old niece, and trying to guide my 18 year old nephew. I do remember thinking how odd it was, and a little scary, and a little lonely, too, to be on this planet with out any of them- the only member of my immediate family. I became the families rock, and I did my best, but I feel I failed my niece and nephew as I didn't really have a frame of reference for guiding them at the age I was. But they and I have remained close all our lives. Now with them, their mates, and children and that and my children and their mates are now my FAMILY! It has grown and it feels good again! I don't feel that sense of loss much anymore.
2007-11-08 17:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by Meeshmai 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As the oldest living among my sisters and cousins, I feel very
lonely at times. For I miss the family gatherings for holidays,
and the laughter that all of my aunts and grandparents once
shared. I haven't seen one sister since the day of my mothers'
funeral. She and the other twin inherited everything from my
parents' estate, including the big house. It has hurt that I was
not even mentioned in her living will. The remaining aunts said
had their mother known this, she would have put me in her
will, and not given my mother anything. She knew how unfair
my mother had always been to me. And even in death, she
chose to slight me. And she lied to my grandmother about
my being in her will.
But as I've told others, if there is reincarnation, I'm coming
back to get it right, next time!
2007-11-08 16:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In a short period of rtime, I lost my mom, dad, grandparents, all of my great aunts and uncles, and my aunts and uncles in addition to my brother and husband . My children live elsewhere so it is very lonely at times. I fortunately have good friends that helps take away some of the lonliness, It does become scarey in a crisis situation when there is no one to call or ask fo help from
because I am on my own
2007-11-09 01:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by slk29406 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to outlive them all, I think of all the heartache I would go through. I had a friend who passed away last year at 102, she had out lived so many of her family and friends. She never stopped living in the moment though and made many new friends along the way. She also got to know and was well loved by her niece and younger generations of the family that came along.
2007-11-08 13:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have no living relatives other than my kids, well I do, a brother and sister I havent seen or spoken to in 15 years except at my mothers funeral, when my brother showed up drunk.
So I just consider it as I have no relatives anywhere except my two kids. I sure do miss the "older generation". The last two survivors, my mother and my uncle died within a month of each other in 2004.
Its lonely at the top when there is no one to share it with you, I feel envious of people who have lots of relatives and siblings they are close to. I wish I had that but I guess God has a different plan.
2007-11-08 13:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by isotope2007 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Does this include your children also? I recently lost a brother and my parents are up in years.One of my other brothers was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's. No I can't imagine it.
But God in His wisdom never gives us more than we can take, it just feels like it sometimes.
GailleeO- I'm sorry for your loss. If we lived closer I would love to be your friend.
2007-11-08 16:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My dear Grandma, who lived to be 92, outlived her husband, both of her children (my mother being one of them), her brother and most of her friends. One of her great-grandchildren died recently. Although I miss Grandma, I'm glad she didn't have to see that...
Being the oldest grandchild, I helped her in her later years, visiting her at home, advocating for her with doctors etc, and, when she could no longer manage at home, set her up in assisted living and ultimately a nursing home.
She had a lot of good times in her life, but also a lot of hardship. I can only imagine what it was like... She kept her spirit and dignity all the way to the end though.
peace
.
2007-11-08 18:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by OhYeah?! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have. My husband died 11 years ago. Then, in a 3 year span, my little canine daughter,mother,father and brother died.
Life really DOES go on...... And there is still much happiness to be had.
I was fortunate.....I took care of my loved ones.....
I always say that the caregiver has been given a precious gift.
2007-11-08 13:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yes because I have already lost my husband and my daughter. That's not the way things are supposed to be. Parents should go first. My daughter in 84 and my husband in 88. I do have two sons and a very good friend. Without them it would be pretty rough.
2007-11-08 13:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by curious connie 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋