Do you think a lot of arguments happen because...?

Question

Men and women speak basically different languages and interpret things differently? Their responses do not coincide on many things, though their feelings about the issue may be the same. Do you think that when someone feels the other person isn't listening, it is really because this "language" barrier is in the way, making the other person (in a sense) unable to really interpret correctly? What are some of your thoughts on this?

Yes, I think that we should all devote a little time to "learning" to speak "Husband" or "Wife". I have found that men are generally "in the now;" such as , if a woman says, "How do you feel?" he may respond with how he feels right that minute, when she may be asking in the broader sense and then feel that his answer was dismissive or evasive when in reality, he didn't really "understand." Or maybe, if a woman says, "Why don't we ever cuddle/talk/whatever anymore?" his alarm bells go off. A better approach might be, "Remember that time we ____? That would be cool to do again..." This opens the dialogue safely without making him feel like he's being threatened or put on the spot.

Answer 1

Yes, I think that is true. I also think that us women like to hint to men about what we want, and then get mad when we don't get it.

With men, you have to be specific and short and to the point.

Answer 2

Sometimes when we speak to one another we dont make our point clear enough so the other person knows exactly what we are saying. It can be that the person is really not interested in what we are saying also.

hope this answer your question

Answer 3

Don't hint, try to manipulate, just say what you've got to say before you pack & leave!!

Answer 4

precious you hit it on the nail , and because somtimes we do not want to realy hear that person

Answer 5

you are definetely correct.... but with patience on both side...i think it can make a lot of difference...

Answer 6

I couldn't agree with you more.