Men, would you want a submissive wife?

Question

In my opinion, I don't think I would want one. Maybe during role-play sex or something but to be kept that way, I don't think so.

I just think the relationship could get boring really fast if all your wife did was wait for you to get home and wait for you to give her an order. I prefer a woman I could not just have sex with, but relate and talk to, hear her opinion on matters instead of just agreeing with mine even if she dosen't, and just have a good laugh with.

I know most other guys might think thats weird, but that just me.

Answer 1

A woman can be a submissive wife without being a robot. Being a submissive wife means she defers to you and stands by the decisions you make, yes she tries to please you but no it doesn't mean she stands around waiting for an order for every little thing.

Answer 2

I wouldn't want a relationship with a submissive man. It's been my experience that those who are submissive on the surface generally have all kinds of conflicting emotions lying just beneath- and eventually these feelings will find a way to come out- if they've been repressed for a long time, then the way it will come out will probably be destructive when it does happen. (Destructive toward the self, or destructive toward others.) So no, I'd like to be with someone who is comfortable asserting their own thoughts, beliefs, and ideas. It's healthier- for all.

Answer 3

I want to see what guys write for this one! You have got to be kidding, I can't even get a date because of my political activism and schedule. I am willing to make time for a man, but non want to work with me to get something going... so where are the ones who do not want a submissive wife? Is there a line of them waiting somewhere?

Answer 4

I don't think that's very accurate. I appreciate that you want a woman with her own mind, and I agree with you there. But many women who see their husbands as "head of the household" are plenty opinionated and bright. They just follow his lead on big decisions. The lifestyle isn't for me, (head of household? Ugh!) but there are plenty of happy couples who do things that way, and still manage to have enough "spark".

Answer 5

yeah, i think most men want a women who will give as good as she gets. men who want a submissive wife want someone they can control and a woman who fills that role isn't being real. all humans have emotions and need to expresss them, if you're pissed show it, if you are happy show it, don't hold anything back, keep it real. a women worth her salt will let you know exactly how she feels and you won't have to guess about it, and a real man appreciates that.

Answer 6

If I was a man, I would most DEFINATELY not want a submissive wife. A wife with energy makes life more exciting.


EDIT: a man who wants a submissive wife most probably just wants somebody he can feel superior to. *shrug*

Answer 7

Nosir. (or ma'am. Sorry, I didn't check.

I once had a super submissive girlfriend from Hong Kong. What I didn't know is she was racking up points against me the whole time, for things I didn't even realize I did wrong. She never said a word. When I came home, there she was, in my apartment, doing dishes and cleaning up for when my friends came over, and we didn't even live together!

The worst part was that I started dating her when I was seventeen, until I was nineteen, so I was young and oblivious. I started treating her terribly: disregarding her, talking about her in the third person when she was in the room, always speaking for her before she could speak for herself (not that she ever did), and things like that. Just really disregarding her feelings altogether. In my defense (not that I have much, in this case) she was one of those girls with seemingly no opinion. No preferences, no desires, impossible to offend... or so I thought.

By the time the relationship was over, I had acknowledged the wrongs I did her. Years later, I see those wrongs even more completely. Immediately after we broke up, I went a-drugging and a-whoring like a champ. I don't think I slept at all that year. Of course, I was acting out my shame at the p**s poor way I treated her. It took me a long time to feel like I could try for a decent girl again; like I had to work off that karmic debt.

Now, at 32 (I'm 33 on Friday!) I realize that I need a woman with patience, yes, but also enough backbone to point out when I'm out of line. Also, I would like to be with someone who has their own interests and goals, since such people are actually interesting. After all, if I'm going to partner, it is to develop a TEAM, not take on some kind of servant. I want a teammate that can hold up her end, also.

TERA: You are so right. Often, those people are submissive because they a wealth of negative feeling fighting it's way out, and they are trying to keep it in. In my above example, it was her dissatisfaction with me! If she had told me, we could have skipped years of turmoil for us both.

Object OII: Thanks, thanks, and... thanks!

Answer 8

I don't want any relationship where there's a submissive role either way, but, if I had to choose between bossy and submissive, I wonder which one I'd choose.........

Tera: Very well said.

Answer 9

No, I would want a wife who likes to get up to some crazy sh*t so we could get into a series of adventures together.

Answer 10

The truth is I had a change of heart as to how I want to word my reply. I'll keep in tune with the subject. Do you know what a submissive wife does? If her husband decides to treat her like dirt; she accepts it. That's a bunch of bull! No woman should ever submit herself to being treated poorly. An honest man would never accept his wife to be treated in such a manner; nor should any other woman tell another woman that this is the right thing to do; for they are far worse. How I arrived at this conclusion is by looking up the word submit in the dictionary. What it said in a nutshell was to subject oneself to some kind of treatment or influence. I also looked up the word obey. It essentially means to do as one is told; at the same time being able to be who they are; meaning if she likes to joke around she jokes around; if she feels the need to speak up she speaks up; something a submissive wife will never do.**Truth be told no one wants a wife who is too stupid to scratch her nose unless her husband tells her she can. It's pathetic really.

Answer 11

Hell, no. That would be the most boring marriage in the world. I like to wake up next to an equal not a door mat.
Might as well by a blow up doll.