Can Having too much held in anger/sadness be bad?

Answer 1

Of course it is bad. Many families, and many nations, have a kind of "stiff upper lip" culture. People think that displays of emotion are useemly, and show a lack self-control or even courage.

It is bad to harbour anger against a person. It harms YOU--not whomever made you angry in the first place. If you are talking about anger in an emotional or romantic or family relationship, that very anger can prevent you from forming the joyous and fulfulling relationships that we all want.

Some people find that there is a spiritual resolution to anger issues.

Sadness is not the normal state of human beings. Joy is. If you are sad all the time, you are cheating yourself.

What makes you joyful? If the answer is "nothing", you might need medication for depressions.

Some people find that there is a spiritual resolution to sadness. I happen to be a Christian, but I am NOT saying that this is the only way. I live in Taiwan, and some of the Daoist and Buddhist approaches help people to deal with anger and/or sadness issues.

Daoists say "The Gods have long memories".
Buddhists say "Karma is karma".

I know that a lot of Christians will read this, and I'll get more thumbs-down than an inept gladiator.

Answer 2

Of course it is bad. Holding in these feelings causes increased stress and stress can affect every body function. Can cause heart attacks and even death. If you are the type of person who holds in these feelings you need to find an outlet, some way of getting rid of the anger and sadness. Obviously the best way is to talk with someone you trust this allows us to express our feelings with fear. Having someone who is willing to listen to our problems does several things, Helps us feel better by simply expressing those feelings. The person we talk with may have some good advice that can help us get through those difficult times. And perhaps that other person has been through something very similar so we can learn by their experience.
If you have no one to talk to then go into a room close the door and yell and scream. That will help you release those emotions also and you'll walk out feeling so much better. You can also do a very rigerous work out, hit a punching bag, but do something extremely physical. This activity also help release the feelings.
But whatever you do, do not keep it bottled up inside because pretty soon you will explode and the one you explode on will be the one person you shouldn't, the person you love.

Answer 3

Anger is the next step up from frustration and the top of the
-ve emotional ladder. - It will exhibit itself somehow at a physical level.
Think of emotions, the language of the soul, as being like a fizzy bottle. If you shake it up and take the lid off it explodes out. If you let it out slowly, it is manageable.
Emotions are "energy", both +ve and -ve, and the -ve energy of anger will affect your behaviour when you can't contain it any longer. Remember that anger is one of the most powerful emotions we have and managed properly can result in some of our greatest achievements.
Also remember that emotions are there for a reason. Just as feelings in our body are to tell you there is a problem (pain in your finger on a hot element tells you it's in danger of destruction) from physical (outside world) danger, emotions tell us whether our spirit (inside world) is in danger from another spirit (eg: abuse)

Answer 4

I always think of it as a balloon. Only so much air can go in a balloon. And when a "hole gets poked" in the balloon, what happens? It explodes. So when a "hole gets poked" in your defenses (such as something somebody did to you) you will "explode" and all that sh!t will come out, even though it is out of proportion for what is going on. This is what causes people to flip out over little things. They have unresolved anger over other things. They aren't really THAT angry about the thing they exploded over. That anger just has nowhere else to go.

Answer 5

Yes it can be very bad , you become jaded , every issue is 10 time's bigger then it need's to be , you can not truely find love and have a happy relationship / marriage when you live in the past and you will breed un-happy children .

Why so angry and sad?

Answer 6

Yes. You get sick mentally & physically. Always dwell on it and you may not know it but to others you are seen as a grouch, bitter, cranky person, & tend to hurt people or say mean stuffs to them, & just don't care about yourself or whatever.

What one can do is to let it out, vent, tell a friend/family/spouse, seek counseling, go to confession & just let it go. You'll feel much better.

Answer 7

UMMM yes. You will end up regretting who ever or what ever it is that your sad or hating. And then you will get self doughty, lose your self esteem, lose control of your thoughts and words, and bad things can happen. Let them go, or seek help.
you have 2 ways of getting it,
3 friends or a therapist

Answer 8

Anger&sadness are just like a sickness, if left untreated, it can make you very ill/kill ya!!

Answer 9

Yes. You cannot bottle up your anger because it will just grow. And one day you will explode.

Answer 10

They say it is bad for you and has a way of coming out in your body of some form of sickness or illness.