Here's the situation. You are in a relationship with a woman who loves you to pieces and you love her, too. You have been together quite a while. She has a job making a bit more than you - not crazy $$ but enough to where she can afford more than you can.
How would you feel about her taking you out, showing you a good time, paying for mini-trips, etc.? She doesn't rub it in, but just wants to spoil you and show her love. Would this be OK with you? You have a good job, too, you just don't make AS much.
The reason this came up is that I have recently accepted a job where I will be making substantially more than my long-time boyfriend. Before, it was more equal (I made about 1/hr less than him) - I would love to use my newfound cash to entertain and amuse BOTH of us in a more costly fashion, but I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable.
2007-11-08 11:05:18 · 13 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl If you love each other; money should not matter!!! But if he is secure and has provided for you and him for a long time, He probably would enjoy someone taking care of him and giving him things that were giving to him by a person he loved. Go for it and save what you don't use for a rainy day. Plan a vacation get away or do something nice that you both do for enjoyment.
2007-11-08 13:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by bigtool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i would love it.I have always been the breadwinner and it would be nice to get looked after once in a while.
I have always made sure that my fiance has had everything that she's ever needed,more so now since the birth of our daughter and she's stopped working to stay at home.I wouldn't mind at all if my fiance earned a lot more than i did and I'm sure that if your boyfriend loves you then he will embrace the fact that your doing so well.
If he doesn't like it then get in touch and i will let you pamper me...Hope all goes well..
2007-11-09 00:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by magicmorph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I'm done with nursing school , my starting job will pay more than what my boyfriend is making right now in the military and I will probably make more than him throughout both of our careers.....we both look forward to the extra money and know that we will both have fun with it. He sees no problem in me bringing home more than him. We look forward to the times we get to spend it together, like on vacations, buying a house...etc etc. I will never rub it in his face and what we make will always be between just the two of us.
2007-11-08 19:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by misspinch82 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we are not in ancient times anymore. But men always we have trouble with "being" inferior than females in those terms.
So as long as you dont show it in his face or try to "humillate" him by doing things or buying things that he doesn't agree to ...then you can have a good relationship.
making money demostrations infront of others could make him feel uncomfortable, so be generous in all aspects but don't compromise a situation where he might feel inferior
2007-11-08 19:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by tequila_cheers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We live in a world now where women are getting higher paid jobs. Thats cool. I would not have a problem. When two people are together, it should be shared equally. Love has no price.
2007-11-08 23:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by pumper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a man, but I do make twice as much as my fiance. We both know that the amount of money we earn is a function of our educational levels and choice of careers, and not of our individual worth as people. It has not caused any problems for us because neither of us defines ourselves by our salaries. Only you know if your guy is going to feel inferior based on your differing salaries. I suggest you talk with him about it.
2007-11-08 20:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K if your man dont like it can you adopt me?
I wont mind being spoilt and taken on mini trips (long as the trip aint me falling down a flight of stair's or falling off the side of a 80 foot building).
2007-11-08 19:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if this guy does not feel ok with the sitition you should get rid of him. Does it really make a difference who makes more money? Most people don't care anymore. Spoil him a little and he will be ok
2007-11-08 19:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dustin W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anybody who insists on treating you in a gendered manner is a jackass.
If your boyfriend has a problem with this, then his perception of your relationship needs to be talked about.
2007-11-09 03:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are a bit more emancipated these days. I think the only challenge might be to his self esteem. If he doesn't think his worth is based on his income I can't imagine him being upset. If he does base it on his income, he's got some more emotional maturing to do.
2007-11-08 19:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by Christian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋