Someone please help???? 10 points!!?

Question

Ok So let's say i am married and i love my spouse but i have a best fried whom i have known for years and he loves me, like deeply, now i have feelings for him too, but i would never cheat on my spouse, what do i do about my feelings?

i mean my bf keeps telling me he wishes he married me etc etc but i love my spouse why do i think i love my bf too? is this possible

it gets worse because if i married him it would have been perfect i wuold have agreat sisterinlaw and motherinlaw who alredy loves me, instead of the sistreinlaw i have who never talks to me and thinks she's gods gift to teh world and a motherinlaw who is all for her kids? :(

Answer 1

Damn, this is a hard one. There's nothing worse than not being able to be with the person you love. But you said it yourself: you love your man and you're not going to cheat on him. If that's REALLY true, you need to not see/talk to this other guy anymore. Your wedding vows said "Forsaking all others." That means EVERYBODY. If you really love your husband, you can do it. If you can't, then maybe you should rethink why you are having feelings for someone besides your husband. It is normal to develop little infatuations from time to time. Generally they are harmless, the by-products of married life. But this sounds like more than that. All you can do is stop seeing this guy. The feelings will fade on their own.

Answer 2

I think u should talk to your bf about what he is doing and tell him how u feel about it and how u feel about your marriage, I also believe u should sit down and have an open and honest discussion with your spouse because these feelings are coming from a void left over so you and your spouse need to figure out what is causing u to feel this way and see if he can supply this need if ur in a good relationship u shouldnt risk it because of someone elses regrets.

Answer 3

I think you need to leave this boy alone and set your heart and your mind and your soul on your own husband.

Cheating is such a disgusting thing to do to ones spouse. If you do that..you are judging your husband to be a nobody and a nothing to you. He does not deserve that.

Nor does the boy you are contemplating cheating with deserve to be judged by you as a horrible backstabbing creepy man who interferes in other peoples marriages.

Now..about you. Do you want to be judged before God as a cheat and a liar and a slut? Come on girl. Let that poor man go.

Answer 4

Give me a break if you got married it would have been perfect , you would have had a perfect sister in law and perfect mother in law what garbage is that ? Marriage is as perfect as you make it and the fact your calling this bloke your boy friend in the same sentence as saying husband is childish .

Break the friendship off tell your husband of your confusion and sort your life out grow up .

Answer 5

Well. If you do really love your husband you shouldnt hurt him by having feelings for anyother guy. Maybe deep down inside you werent ready to get married, at least not to the one you are to now. I'm not saying to end it but if you really have deep feelings for this other guy you should probably not hang around him too much cause those feelings could turn into action and you dont want to hurt your husband like that. You have to realize who you really love and can see yourself growing old with. Remember you're gonna be with them the rest of your life and you should be happy! Good Luck with your choice.

Answer 6

by racer 51 Member since:
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Yes I cut and pasted this. You are so right ( Spacer 51)..... To put it blunt . we think he is only after one thing , and what do you think it is? put them into perspective. first of all, shame on your friend for telling you this when he knows you're a married woman. that's a sign of disrespect. secondly, i'd be willing to bet that your feelings for this friend are only on the surface. it's always nice to be loved and i think you're infatuated with the idea of it. back away from this guy, you know it's wrong. don't allow yourself feelings for him. believe me, your husband will figure it out

Answer 7

Why be married. Your spouse is supposed to be your best friend & should be there for you. Is it because you spend too much time & too time being emotionally connected to your best friend & that he's always there to listen. Talk to your husband. Ask yourself the reasons that you married your husband. Talk to your friend & that if he respects you then he wouldn't be doing this to you ask him to leave alone.

Answer 8

do wat u think isright for u. is it better to have a spouse who u dont want o let go of or do u want to be with your best friend who just might b in the position of ur spouse in the future? u should follow ur heart.

If u r to decide make a list of pros and cons for each one of them. Ifu have moreprosfor one person than another the n u might wanna pick that person.

Call me old fashioned but just follow ur heart.

Answer 9

seperate yourself from your friend until you figure out what you want to do, just having feelings for someone else is already cheating. if you want someone else leave your husband first. rule of thumb never date a cheater because you will never trust them not to cheat on you and vice a versa good luck i know this is a tough call

Answer 10

remember, you are married. you married this guy for a reason. if you decided to cheat on your husband, would you be able to be with this other guy for the rest of your life? because chances are, once your husband finds out you cheated, thats where you will be-is with this other guy. sometimes people can control themselves, and sometimes they end up cheating thinking it was what they really wanted-only to have thier lives ruined. really think about it...is this guy worth leaving your husband for?