Expectations?

Question

They wanted me to be a nurse. I followed it cuz i didnt know wat i really wanted. Im in a nursing school now and it's SOOO challenging and wen i fail occasionally(like today) i tend to blame myself and ask--is this really wat i wanted in life?I'd love to be a teacher and shift course but my folks hve already paid a lot for my Nursing and i dont wanna ruin their expectations. I mean they would understand but I already said my word to them.Or maybe it's me who's afraid of QUITTING.that would be a blow to my ego..Is this just dpression because Im having a hard time in class (which is hurting my ego) or is there something wrong with me.Im becoming lazier everyday..Im not motivated.What do I do? Help me

Answer 1

By not following your dream you could be sabotaging your future. The credits that you have accumulate can be transferred to your new major. If you feel badly about the money, you can always get a job to pay what you can toward your teaching career.

It sounds like your parents want you to be happy in whatever path you choose. Follow your dream.

Answer 2

it is normal to have such feelings. Still, did you ever approach your guidance counselor? There are certain test that will detect your personality and will match you with the careers that best meet your personality. See websites to find these type of test (sorry I do not have the site that could well help you) you can try working part-time in the area you are currently working in to see what life will be for you in the future. You mention that you are concern that quiting now can be a blow to your ego but is it not better to move on rather than working in an career that you hate or just dislike because you wanted to appease your parents. Talk to your parents and assure them that you feel that your calling is to be a teacher in another career with similar expectations. According to what I know your personality calls for a career where you can instruct or give orders. You are not depressed you are just reacting in a negative way toward an education you dislike which is then affecting your motivation to continue. So take a breath and speak with your parents they only want what is best for you.

Answer 3

I think its a tough situation, You obviously have taken nursing because other people wanted you to do it, But not yourself which is always going to make it harder as your probably not as motivated to suceed as you would be for example if you were taking a teaching degree which you wanted.
I suppose you have choices, and just have to make a decision you can live with - Either stay in nursing school and work hard and get the qualifications you need, or change and enter something you want to do.
Maybe discuss what your feeling with your parents, while they may have ambitions for you Im sure they would not want you to be unhappy and maybe dont know that your feeling this way.

Answer 4

The problem isn't your parents wanting you to be a nurse but your inability to stand up to your parents period! You have done this probably all your life, and will continue to do so. If its not your profession it will be something else, like your spouse, or your hair or your children. You will NEVER meet your parent's expectations remember that. The more the expect the more you will deliver and the more they will continue to expect. It will be a never ending game so end it by standing up for yourself.

Your biggest challenge is to stand up for yourself and sacrifice not being liked, cus the truth is who are they liking you or what the person you are acting as? they dont like YOU they like someone else, now are you going to live your whole life being this other person? As yourself some questions.

If you continue to please them as this "you" then get ready for a domino effect in your life of continuous misery and bitterness towards those you love. IT is a failure on your part not on them for not being strong enough. They are your challenge right now and if you cant stand up to them how are you going to teach others and be an example?

Feel how strongly you believe in something and why, and if it comes from your heart you will naturally fight for it cus it will make sense. It would mean you have something to offer the world and your parents are selfish if they cant understand that!