Im doing a relationships paper will someone complete these answers. You must be married or previously married.

Question

Please state your name.
And what state.

1. In your opinion what makes a good relationship
2.Does money effect marriage.
3.Is good communication needed((please elaborate))
4.How does children effect marriage.
5. DO you have a good marriage((optional)) please elaborate why or why not.

Im a 10th grade student not a perve haha i just need this "interview" by tomorrow =]

Is a second marriage better or worse?

Answer 1

I was married for 14 years. Honesty and trust with 100% complete communication is needed. Money and children do effect some marriages. My husband could not handle having a handicapped child and money was a little tight. Some people can handle dealing with these issues. We had a good marriage until the kids came. Then after the one child became handicapped I spent alot of time with him dealing with those issues. When I realized that he was backing off I began to ask about counselors and he would not go or talk about anything. Communication is very vital to any relationship. I hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 2

Please state your name: Shneia
And what state: Connecticut

1. In your opinion what makes a good relationship?
Communication, Laughter, Love, Friendships

2.Does money effect marriage?
Always because, there is always someone who like to spend money rather than pay bills, or both like to party.

3.Is good communication needed((please elaborate))?
Without it you might as well not even have a relationship. it's good to talk things out. To value each others opinions, wants and needs.

4.How does children effect marriage?
It depends on whether children is something you both want. I don't believe in just the woman's choice. Both parties have to be on the same page. If your not then the relationship is doomed.

5. DO you have a good marriage((optional)) please elaborate why or why not?
I think when my husband and I started out it was great, and then 3 years later is when it started going downhill. I have been married almost 9 years, and I already want to be with someone else. how do you do that with 3 kids? It's hard to even think about moving on because, it's not only your life anymore. We want different things now, and it is really putting a strain on the marriage.


Im a 10th grade student not a perve haha i just need this "interview" by tomorrow =]

Answer 3

#1. trust, respect, and love
#2. Money does effect the marriage, not having enough to pay bills or buy food for the kids or not being able to take the kids to the Dr. and not being able to buy their medicine and the list goes on.
#3. Communication is a must. One person should not make all the decisions, this should be a joint effort. I know from experience. My ex would do what he wanted without saying anything to me (example: borrowed $10,000 from the bank), then when the first payment was due, he came crawling to me for the money).
#4. Children in my opinion are an asset to any marriage. They are a lot of work and fun. Yes the hubby may feel neglected at times when you cannot devote all your time to him because of the kids. Most husbands learn to deal with it. (Mine didn't).
#5. I am now divorced. I did not have a good marriage. The Ex was and still is a control freak. Everything always had to be his way. If not we were fighting. He was very jealous and very distrusting, (due to issues that happened in a previous marriage). He carried these traits into our marriage. The only reason I stayed in the marriage was for the kids.

Answer 4

1. A good relationship is determined by how much effort each person in the relationship is willing to put towards the relationship. you cant have one person making all the effort. it has to be 50/50.
2. Money DOES in fact effect marriage. Many arguments are over money.
3.good communication is needed. always have an "open door policy" in any relationship. you need to feel comfortable talking to your spouse in order to have good communication. it is important to talk about EVERYTHING. even if its just the weather.
4.children can badly effect a marriage if the couple were not prepared, or ready to be parents. views on dicipline, all sorts of things can effect a marriage. just be ready, and WAIT TO HAVE KIDS. the most important thing, is being comfortable with each other, and having enough time to get to know each other before having kids.
5. i have a good marriage, with ups and downs. there have been spots where communication, kids, and money have caused a great strain on our marriage. things are going smoothly now though. if i had any advice to give to people that are getting married, it would be 1.) have a long engagement (a year or more) 2.)live with each other (a year or more) 3.) wait to have kids after getting married (at least 5 years!) believe me, i speak from experience. i wish we would have done all these things. not doing these things can make a marriage very hard! oh yeah, and 4.) wait untill after college, or wait till you're 24 or older to get married.

Answer 5

Kaya, Colorado

1) A good relationship is when both partners work on their desires for the marriage instead of expectations.

2) Money affect a marriage it that is the most important thing in the marriage.

3) Yes, communication along with honesty, respect, trust and most of all openness with each other.

4) Children can change a marriage if the two parent are not on the same page when dealing with the kids. Out of sync parenting spells trouble for the marriage.

5) I have a good marriage because we have all the elements list in it 3. Without those a marriage can never survive.

Answer 6

Yes the questions are asked in front of each person. You should have told already sometimes people say things and it's not all that serious to them but it lie the right thing to say. You are starting another marriage and you want to begin it with a lie. So he doesn't really know you at all. Whatever goes on in the dark will eventually show in the light. It's just not worth it. If he truly loves you this won't be an issue. Also it takes awhile for divorces to be incorporated into the system. I'm in the USA. It sounds like you made your mind up. You said you will marry him. Are there other people who know of your previous marriage? Why take the chance of him finding out after you've been married. I think he will respect your honesty. How long have you been dating him? Do you have a fixation with being married? You are so young! Take your time, your boyfriend does not have the same views as you.

Answer 7

1. This is a hard question to answer simply. Honesty & respect, not only with others but with yourself. And alot of Compromising. I believe this applies with not only marriage but with other relationships.

2. Absolutely. It can cause alot of arguments because of the stress it causes.

3. Yes, I think that you have to be able to talk with one another. Yes, even yelling. It can help get things out. Sometimes the problem isn't what your fighting about at the moment but maybe something totally different.

4. Yes, but its to difficult to explain in a paragraph. Children change everything. I think they effect marriage because parents sometimes have different ideas about how their child should be raised. So you get alot of arguements. When you get married and plan to have children you have this idea of what it will be like but then when it happens you find out that it is nothing like you thought. You kinda make it up as you go along.

5. I believe I have a good marriage. But I think that what is considered a good marriage depends on ones view point. I was married once before and it went really bad. Now I am happily married with a daughter. I can't say that there aren't any problems because that's not true and I don't think there is a marriage anywhere without its problems. We have our share of disagreements and sometimes they get loud. But at the end of the day we can still say I love you and mean it. My husband and I are best friends. We can sit on the couch talking and have blast.

I don't know if anything I have said will help. But I hope so

Answer 8

Winebabe, MI

1) Connection - having similar interests and having the same core values is essential
2) It can, it depends on how important it is to the couple. Some people happily lead simple lives.
3) Communication is crucial to a good relationship.
4) Children do not affect my marriage because we don't have any - neither of us want them.
5) My marriage is great! My husband is the best.

Answer 9

Eveie~~Arkansas

1. Communication, trust, honesty, caring, compassion, love.
2. Money can affect a marriage but with good communication and decisions on your parts, it does not have to be a large issue. Money is one of the number one reasons people get a divorce.
3. Communication is needed. If you do not talk things out you will never know what the other is thinking. Good communication is the only way to solve any troubles that arise and to get across how it is you feel about all things in your relationship and in your home.
4. Children for me were a joy in the marriage. They showed that the love of the husband and wife was there....I grew up being told and even seeing it to be real that having children showed how two people love each other...it was the ultimate gift to give each other.
5. My marriage had its ups and downs...more downs though now that I am divorced from my now ex-husband and had time to reflect on things. He had come to a time in his life (12 years of marriage to me) that he had decided he had enough of being married. He never really told me why he wanted out of the marriage but then he also did not think of our two children at the time either. I know it had its good times but I do wonder now that he even loved me for real or that he used marriage as a way to get out of his parents' house. Or for some other reason altogether. I never wanted out of the marriage at that time but because of how he acted and so on....I could not see making him stay in a marriage he did not want...there is no way to force somebody to do something they have no heart for.

As for a second marriage, I have been divorced for about 5 years now and have not dated or anything yet...I have been focusing on my kids and their needs...but having the time of my life doing so....as for their dad...he married 14 months after our divorce and he got dumped 14 months after that by their first stepmother. He has since remarried again and this time it has lasted him two years and a bit longer....they are due to have their first child together in a few days....and he has our two and she has her three from previous marriages.....So I can not honestly answer how second or third marriages rate.

Answer 10

My name is Precious and I'm in Virginia.
1. A good relationship is composed of trust, devotion, understanding, communication, respect and compromise. It is created out of and lasts because of friendship, love and learning.
2. Money effects marriage because money effects everything. You need money in order to survive and people have different ideas about what to do with it. Money equals security and validation (among other things), and when people disagree about it, things can become very heated. Money is considered to be one of the top things couples fight about.
3. Good communication is extremely important in ANY relationship. Without good communication, important issues are left unresolved. If one party feels they are not being listened to or understood, it can create huge roadblocks and lead to resentment, or aguing about the same things over and over again. Without good communcation, parties may feel that they cannot say what is on their mind and this can lead to many, many problems.
4. Children effect marriage in both positive and negative ways. Positively, they bring a sense of wonder to any adult. They can create a bond with your partner that you don't have with anyone else. They can realign people's priorities and make people make better, more mature decisions. They, in effect, force people to grow up. Negatively, children cause a lot of stress. They take up much of your time and your relationship may be neglected. They impact the financial situation of any relationship and this can lead to arguing. Also, everybody has different ideas about how they should parent and this can also lead to turmoil.
5. I have a pretty good marriage. We have our sore spots like everyone else and we are both constantly learning and growing. No one knows what the future holds but I think we can stand each other for the next 50 years and come out of it with just as much love as we had in the beginning. And what else could you ask for?