"Its not even that I really want to end this...its just like I need a little break right now to think things over I guess with my life. Like I said before and I will say it again I do care for you and I do understand that you want to change things and thats great...but I just need this for me right now. I just need my mind focused this semester and soccer right now. Its not even I dont want to give it another chance or anything, I just need like a little time off before it does happen you know. After that then we will see how we both feel about it. "
He coaches 3 soccer teams and has college so hes busy, and we got in a fight last week and he said this to me. Im devastated but i agreed and now im even more devastated i can't stop crying. i want to yell at him i want to send him a message beggin not to do this but i don't want to be whiny and im scared.
2007-11-08 10:27:38 · 8 answers · asked by maki 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
should i send him a message asking if he was being honest or if this was an easy way out? Also should i tell him how devastated i am??
2007-11-08 10:50:40 · update #1
He just sounds like hes being honest with you, If he wanted to have ended it completely he would have. In this situation I think the best thing for you to do is to let him have his time and freedom to get things together, Maybe giving him the space he needs might make him realise he cant be without you, otherwise hell sort himself out then you can be together.
2007-11-08 10:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rock My Socks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cared for you, he would not need this "space", first of all. When you truly care for someone you want to be there for them through it all and and want the same in return. The guy I'm seeing right now has two jobs and is a full time student [takes 18 hours/semester] and STILL finds the time to give me lots and lots of attention w/o interfering with my schedule. It is always a good and healthy idea for couples to separate once in a while for one night to go out with friends alone [while behaving] to break out of routine and to not be so clingy on each other, but "breaks" like those are usually a sorry excuse for a break up. It's "the easy way out". Hey, you never know, it MIGHT for once work, that's up to your heart to figure out though. Only you could really feel it in your heart if he really feels for you, don't try to fool yourself. You'll know. Take a walk and come back and think about it with a clear head.
2007-11-08 10:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks but you need to give him the time. That is what he wants and you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you right then. I'll bet you will end up together but right now you need to take a break. Think of it as time for you to figure out your life and grow stronger. Let me tell you- I took a break from my boyfriend after we had been going out for 3 years. I told him kind of the same thing but I wasn't sure if he was 'the one' or not and it was getting serious. Well 6 months later, we got back together and I know for sure he IS 'the one'. I will never have any doubts now so i'm glad we took the break. We both grew stronger and I'm SO happy now!! So I know its hard but I think you should take a break from him.
2007-11-08 10:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by califrniateach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok deary, this will take a few days for you to sit back and relax for a bit. SO WHAT hes says he's bussy,. Maybe he is, maybe hes not a jerk and will want to work things out, when its not so hecktic, but if he dosnt call you or any thing, and i mean it, nothing, dont sweet it. Because that means hes moved on. and some guys just dont know how else to say good bye.
Maybe it was him. maybe it could of been someone else. or maybe it could have been you, but you dont know that. because you two havent talked about it.
so for now. Chill out. take a bubble bath, go out with the girls and have a night out on the town.
hes not the last guy on earth to make you happy. so dont sit around waiting for him.
You never know, mr right could pop in your life in the mean while.
2007-11-08 10:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by M_Izuzu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... "i personally believe" that he is really stressed out and does need some alone time. look, if he does like you, like you than he probably broke up with you cuz he wants to give you more of his time but he can't, and that just makes him feel bad cuz you deserve more than that. you need to tell him how and why u feel the way you feel right now after the break up. and if he loves you and sees that u understand him than yall are gonna hook up again, and if he used his stress as an excuse to brake up with u than u are gonna know.
2007-11-08 10:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf obviously needs some space, so give it to him. When he is ready, he will come back to you. You should send him him a message saying that you understand and ask him if you two can still be bffs or maybe you can get back together sometime.
2007-11-08 10:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mir 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means he has a lot on his plate and needs time to sort it out and if you get all.. the way people normally get which is upset scared or just mad.. itll push him away to have a love and love a love you have to sacrafice for love and now is your time to sacrifice what will you do only you can know..
2007-11-08 10:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's waving a big neon sign saying he not in love with you. sorry, but you'll be better off if you split with him
2007-11-08 10:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by oldguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋