Baby momma drama?

Question

Ilive with my baby momma but we are not in love. As a matter of fact me fight all the time. The only thing we have left is a great sex life

Now I have a better job out of state and they want me to move there. I don't know what to do. Should I go and leave her and my son behind? Or get a house and try it again? Stay living where I am and come home on the weekends?

If you have some good advise plz help.

Answer 1

well if you aren't happy there's your answer. it doesn't matter if there's a child involved...if you are happier as individuals apart, then that's what's best for the child, two happy parents. it's not like the kid sees your sex life. I'm in a similar situation, we have the greatest sex ever and the strongest physical connection, but we can't make it work. there's always a fight. long story short, i left...now my kids see a happy mom, not a crazy one. no what i mean
i wish you and your family the best in what ever you choose

Answer 2

You need to work on this relationship You already have a child together and if you want to make some thing work and not just looking for a way out then you can make your relationship better. You live with the woman and with your child, you are a family now you want to just get up one day say bye bye and go move away and on to a new life and just leave the girl and the baby behind like yesterday's newspaper? What would your mother or your father say to that? You already know what the right thing to do is, so do it already and try to take a new look and a new start ya know many times if you take the first step to makeing things better you would be so surprised by what would happen. You know what to do, and now you have our permission to do it, take your family with you and start a new life for you all.

Answer 3

well what i think you should do no matter what is in your heart look at it this way if you don't go and all you do if fight you will be kiking your self for the rest of your life i would take the chance when things change they can change for the better and if you are fighting and the sex is the only thing that is keeping you guys together isn't good for your son why because i've read books and done reseach all that fighting is stressing your son out and do you really want your son to think that this is how a relationship is supposes to be sex and nothing else take the job and come home on the weekends to see your family maybe she will miss you and have time to think about everything when your gone but don't leave them with nothing and if she goes off and cheats on you she wasn't worth it and thank your lucky star that you got the job your son is # 1 no matter what mine is hes first no one else

Answer 4

Well personally i was recently in the same situation. ill tell my story and you can figureit out. There is no sense in dictating to a grown woman. I met a guy who said he had an ex that was pregnant with his baby. we went on a few dates. he said he felt really strongly about me and was wondering if i can be his girlfriend. i decided not to let his past mistakes jeapordize what cud be a great relationship. we were together for 9 months. the baby is now about a little less than a year old. He gives his baby all of the attention and constantly talked about the trouble he was having with his baby momma. then about a month ago i get a call from his gf of three years and counting aka the baby momma interrogating me. i call him asking him what the deal was, his reply, f*** all yall. Sounds to me like he fell into his own trap.dont make the same mistake i made but at the same time not all men are alike.

Answer 5

Well go to your job alone and come back on the weekends and see how it works maybe its just the time apart from everything that you two need and if things start working ALOT better than think about getting a house and moving them in with you and if it doesnt work out with you comming home on the weekends than just keep it like that so you dont wind up in the same situation where the only free time you and her get is the time you go to work

Good Luck

Answer 6

Why can't she and the baby move with you? Since there is nothing but sex between you, why not live as room mates, with the understanding that you two will have separate lives personally but together raise your son. It would take a lot of giving and taking between you and her but if both of you are friends and want to be there for your son, it could be a win-win situation. There's only one way to find out-- ask her. She may already have thought of this.

Answer 7

Go for the job. If you are not in Love with her, then it is going to be even harder trying to love her. You have a child, so that alone makes the situation tougher on you. I think you should take the job, while still keep a steady relationship with your son, by letting him know you love him, and just because you are not as close, does not mean you love him any less. Sex is sex, do not let that keep you around.

Answer 8

If good sex is the only thing left then I would say its time to move on............
communication is the key to making a relationship work
you both need to talk....
you might find that there are just some miss communication going on
if after talking you want to work on things then move closer to your job and take them with you and then you can get some counceling.
dont stay together for your baby....you have to do whats best for you and your child,and if the parents are fighting all the time that is not a good enviroment for the child.
if nothing is going to work and you just want to move on with your life,, then leave and move to be with your job,that way she and the baby can go on with there lifes and she can find someone that will make her happy

Answer 9

If your kid is the most important thing to you, you shouldn't move out of state. You will only get to see him on some holidays and during the summer. you will have to pay for his plane tickets to visit you, and you will never be very close because you won't see him enough to have a great bond. But if you and your son's mom aren't working, you should split up and split custody and both live in the same state. most kids would rather be from a broken home than IN one.

Answer 10

Take the better job and visit unless you plan on marrying her but I don't know if that is a good idea since you fight all the time. You can get sex anywhere. Just keep in touch with her for you sons sake.