What should I do?? maybe a life threatning issue? HELP?

Question

came home from school... some guy totally followed me walking back home...

I was talking on the phone as I walked. As he drove by, he continued to stare and follow me in his car. The guy turns the curb when I do, gets off his car, starts walking next to me, and then he says to me that he would like to get to know me?!!?!?! he mumbles something and hops back into his car and watched me come inside.

I WAS SO SCARRED! I hate coming home alone.

Bad thing is... he saw me coming inside, so now whoever the fck this guy is- knows where I live... and whether he's been watching me? I have no clue.

Sad to say he was black but not surprising... dont mean to offend anyone. This area is changing and that's obviously not a good sign. What's even funnier is that tommorow is a new moon... explains the craziness out there.. it's been a really weird day. I'm just glad to be safe & home =)

phew.

What should I do if I see this guy again... or if he does what he did today and i'm alone?

My boyfriend normally comes home with me twice a week. but those other days I take the bus to and from school alone.

and yes... I already have mace!

Answer 1

call 911

Answer 2

I am totally going to ignore your comment about the guy's race ... that is so irrelevant but you sound young and will learn better. It's only relevant as part of the overall description.

1. Right now: Is he still out there? If so, lock the doors and windows call 911 and get off the friggin' computer.

2. If not, make sure all the doors and windows are locked, call an adult you know who might be able to come over right away, then write down everything you can remember about the guy's description, facial hair, what he was wearing, make, model, color of car, hope you got license plate #, voice, jewelry, tattoos, EVERYTHING as soon as you can before your memory fades.

3. Tell your parent(s) and other responsible adults, and show them your description. They might want you to show your description to the police. He might be a known or suspected predator and your description might help. Tell the school principal or vice principal the same -- he shouldn't hang around the school to maybe pick on some other girl.

3. Don't leave home alone for the next few weeks, especially after dark, and if you are home alone anytime, keep the doors locked. Have someone walk you home during that time. I don't know how old you are, but you might want to make a habit of having someone older around as much as you can.

4. If you see him again following you anytime, call 911 immediately. If you are alone, go somewhere there are others -- adults -- around. Knock on doors if you have to and stay on 911.

5. Ask your school principal or vice principal or a trusted teacher if there is an after-school program you can take part in so you aren't alone so much, and can have a safe, escorted way home. Also ask if there is a self-defense class for girls in your area, sponsored by the YWCA, Big Brother, Girls Club, or something like that. It gets you out of the "victim" headspace and into feeling empowered.

7. This is a really good book: http://shopping.yahoo.com/p:Self-Defense%20and%20Assault%20Prevention%20for%20Girls%20and%20Women:3000820141;_ylc=X3oDMTB1c21tcDhkBF9TAzk2NjMyOTA3BHNlYwNmZWVkBHNsawNib29rcw--


6. Learn to scream really loud -- don't go quietly. I'm not kidding. Check out this website for other self-defense tactics you can use even with bigger, older, stronger people.
http://www.womensdefensecenter.com/stalking.htm
http://www.womensdefensecenter.com/self1.htm

All the above is not to make you paranoid, but AWARE. Don't be a quiet, passive victim -- these jerks count on that. You will feel stronger if you have a plan and know how to deal with it. The guy may have been harmless, but it doesn't sound like it. Predators are out there in any neighborhood and better safe than sorry.

Answer 3

First, make sure the doors are locked. Call your parents and let them know about this. Is there a neighbor who can come over and stay with you, or a friend?

If you see the car again, get the license number so your parents can report it to the police.

Don't answer the door unless you know who is there.

It is always a good idea to have a friend or neighbor to call in case of an emergency. You should know which neighbors are home when you get home from school, and have a list of phone numbers beside the phone. We can never be too careful today.

Answer 4

There are potential threats serious enough that after a couple of people died in Massachusetts the hospitals there put a hold on doing any more such surgeries for a while. I don't know if they have resumed doing them by now. The answer to your question is YES YES YES !!! Most medical professionals who recommended it justify that by saying the risk of death is greater to the patient if the surgery is not done. That may be true, but I can't help but notice that the patients have to be so careful about what they eat afterward; and some even manage to gain weight in spite of the surgery; why isn't there some way to be that careful about what one eats and lose weight the regular way? I know people argue that they "won't lose weight any other weight" but there are no pictures of fat people in concentration camps. People cannot stay overweight if they deprive their body of the calories needed to maintain that weight. I don't buy the "it won't come off" mentality. Another line used to justify taking the risks associated with this surgery is: Any time you have anesthesia you run a risk...". That is true, and if a person needs gall stones out there isn't much choice but to take that risk. Taking that risk for weight loss may not be worth it. Also, though, there are potential complications that are separate from any usual anesthesia risks; and those are the complications worth paying attention to. (Note: The people in Massachusetts who died from complications of surgery were young. One was a 27-year-old young man. The other was a young woman - early 30's maybe.)

Answer 5

God how scary!.... First i would get in touch with the police and tell them what is happening...please? Then follow their advice. If he speaks to you tell him, that youre boyfriend usually walks home with you, and that you'd appreciate it if he didnt approach you like this as it scares you- then if he is harmless he should leave you alone, if hes suspect, tell him you have a close relative who is in the police force, and that you will contact him if he doesnt leave you alone. Im NOT saying this is the best advice but thats the sort of thing i would do..or something along those lines. Please do something about it....it may be hes a nutter or it could be he's not..and just likes you, but this seems a strange way to go about making yourself known to someone. If you feel threatened as a female. do what my daughter did, go to some self defense classes, she went to martial arts classes and learned the basics but then she went to Kick boxing classes and enjoyed these more. She is only 5'2" but she really can handle herself. Best wishes sweetheart.

Answer 6

Keep your cell phone 911 ready. Tell a few of your close friends (boyfriend, mother, father, sister etc.) when you are leaving school. If your on the phone let that person know whats going on & keep some sort of code like if you hang up that should be there cue to call for help.

Answer 7

You need to phone the Police hunny.

This isn't normal behaviour and if he has a car he may plan a kidnapping.

Give the Police a description of him and then they can be on the lookout. Even if you're safe, another girl or child may be at risk.

He's a stalking, weirdo, sex offender and you don't want something like that in your neighbourhood.

Please phone the Police.

Answer 8

Try to get a friend (preferably a boy) to walk home with you for a few days.
You should notify the police if this continues.

Answer 9

well he is either harmless and likes you and doesn't know
how to properly pick you up, or he is a stalker and you need
to start carrying pepper spray. I'd go with pepper spray
and either see if he goes to your school (start paying attention
to people in the hallway) and find a buddy to walk home with
you or hitch a ride with someone and never ever ever answer
the door if you are home alone !!!!!

Answer 10

let bf know and maybe even report it to the police let them know a strange guy has been around and tell them the decryption tell them u are scared if he sees the police come there he might just leave u alone try to get a friend to stay with u until u get this resolved

Answer 11

Try not to walk home alone, have a friend go with you. Purchase some mace and have it ready to spray and threaten to use it if you need to.