i officially given up.?

Question

yup this would be my 9th month TTC i have given up... i don't know why... but i am guessing because after this long TTC and haven't conceived then i am not suppose to have a baby...
so i want to say thanks to all you girls who have helped me and given me all the baby dust i could have needed (too bad it actually didn't work lol)
and good luck to all you girls who are still trying i wish you all the best of luck

:)

im really upset with myself for giving up like this but my whole family has way to many kids i swear i come from the most fertile background EVER... and we did go to the doc. both of us he happens to have a very high sperm count and i have 0 problems at all so we will just not try and not not try lol anyways thanks for the answers

Answer 1

If you do not have any medical issues that keep you from being able to have a baby, then you have reached the perfect place! Decide that you are ready to just spend some time with your significant other, plan a trip away in the next few months, buy a mountain bike (all the thing you would do without a child) and then BOOM. . .it'll happen! Like I said earlier, if there is no medical reason you can't conceive, then the stress of trying is what is keeping it from happening! RELAX and enjoy your partner and it WILL happen!

Answer 2

I read that if it's been a year TTC, then you should see your doc about possible fertility issues, but it takes most couples at least 6 months. So 9 months isn't bad. I wish i had that chart from the pregnancy book I read about how so many percent of couples get pregant in this many months, etc. I know it can be really discouraging, and I'm not saying you should keep trying if you've decided not to. All I'm saying is 9 months is normal. It's been at least 6 months semi-trying for me, and no baby yet! Oh well, I wish you the best in life and beyond!

Answer 3

Giving up after ONLY nine months???

You've set too high an expectation.

For one, many doctors don't start investigating fertility issues until you've failed for a full year (assuming you are under age 35).

The most appropriate course of action would be to continue to try for three more months, and in the mean time look for and get an appointment with a board certified RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist). These are THE baby making doctors. That is all they do. Once they get you pregnant, they send you back to your OB for prenatal and delivery. These are the same doctors that do advanced procedures like IVF, but that's the procedure of last resourt. They have lots of other test and procedured they can to well beyond the typical OB/GYN. Check out fertility boards on the internet and you'll quickly discover that it can take 2 to 4 YEARS for many couples to get pregnant.

Answer 4

Hey :)
I feel for you. I'm TTC too, and no ovulation, and I've been consulting doctors for a year now. I get what you feel. If you ever feel like you want to talk about it, just mail me ;)
Still, I give you some baby dust... maybe that by this decision, you will let go of some stress that was keeping you from getting pregnant. I sure hope so!!! :)
So with all my heart, I wish you the best

Answer 5

Please don't noooooooooooo,GIRL I know how you feel!I'n so damn fertile and so is my whole family.The thing with me is I have a hard time holding them and then I had a tubal last yr and they removed part of my right tube and then I got pregnant again last yr and had a BAD fall at work Jan.12th of this yr during a code blue and fell trying to make it back to my unit.I took the steps because I'm scared of elevators and the person that had a stat code blue was my patient go FIGURE!I tripped one clog over the other woke up in the emergency room of the hospital I worked for to find out they had already vtaken my son at 21 weeks.I ripped my placenta and was bleeding inside.The baby had drowned on the blood.Every since they gave me that d&c to clean me out it's been so hard for us too.BUT I've been through serious testing to make sure I had no scarring on my uteran walls and nothing on the one tube I have left.My cycles was a little off after that and now there just getting back normal the last two months.My doctor said to go ahead and try.She said for me to go on 400MCG of Folic acid or a high potency pre-natal vitamin for 3mths,if I doin't get pregnant then our next thing is an IUI.She said as long as your cycles are normal then you know you're ovulating.Goodluck Ms.Lady please don't give up.I'm not.It's hard but it's nothing like your own.God test our faith sometimes that's all.And I'm going to hold on!

Answer 6

Sometimes it takes a while, you just need to have faith that your baby is just waiting for the right time to join you.
I have been ttc for a year and lost my first baby in a miscarriage in Sept at 3 months. Hurt was unreal, but I still have faith that my little one knows best and will come along when it is ready. Don't give up hope, look after yourself and dont stress about it and it will happen. All the best to you. :)

Answer 7

Don't give up it took me and my husband almost 3 years and two miscarriages to conceive and I finally got pregnant with my oldest and now we have three. So hang in there I know it can get frustrating and emotional and depressing and all the other things you may be feeling especially when you are healthy and your husband it healthy. Hang in here and stay positive it just takes some women longer than others. Relax and be confident. Best of Luck too you!!!

Answer 8

You know when they say you give up, not think about it, and just relax it happens. So I think if you dont try so hard that day will come hopefully it will be soon. I wish you all the luck and since you both have no problems then I think it will happen when the timing is right! Good luck....

Answer 9

I am going to give you my standard answer.......go get a book called "taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Weschler. It will help you truly understand your body and cycle and erase all the myths that women believe about their bodies. It will help you chart and find your best days for conception - or not! It will also help you learn if you are pregnant or not faster than any pregnancy test can tell you. I believe every woman - whether they want to conceive or not should read this book. I believed all the ovulation & conception myths that are floating around here until we tried for a year with no luck. My doctor recommended the book and it worked the very next month! It turned out my timing was wrong and that I don't ovulate in the middle of my cycle like most women.
I'll be 40 in Nov....and I am due to have my 4th in March!

Answer 10

I was speaking with my doctor the other day and he explained to me that there are a million different things that need to link up in order for humans to conceive. Thats why its really such a miracle.

I just miscarried this past week because of a blighted ovum we think. Just be thankful that you havent concieved and something be wrong. Your baby will come at the right time.