i have sent off an application to Join the police force and my husband was ok with it until a couple of hours ago.
now he is being a jerk and saying if i go through with it he will divorce me.
i have always wanted to be a policewoman.
am i being selfish by saying im gonna see this through or should i just quit my dream job before its even begun?
i really want to do something for me for once instead of putting my life on hold again.
2007-11-08 08:49:15 · 34 answers · asked by ♫ღ♥Samantha B™ 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
thanx to everyone who answers
2007-11-08 10:09:12 · update #1
It's your life and your dreams, you should do what YOU'VE always dreamed of doing. If your husband can't understand that you are your own person and you have dreams of your own, maybe he is not the right person to have married.
2007-11-08 08:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by The Woman With You 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Never give up on your dreams. If you have been putting your dreams and life on hold for the sake of others, it's time to do something for yourself.I say Go for it.It sounds like he's being a little selfish.Is he worried about the danger factor? I can kinda understand that, but still if thats what you really want than follow your dreams.
2007-11-08 17:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if you guys can talk about it....He was probably OK with it when he thought you where just talking. He would need to really have a good reason to not want you to do this. This is very serious, because being on a Police force is very dangerous work. You need to make this decision together, but he needs to understand that you must be your own person, too. You guys need to talk and come to a compromise.
2007-11-08 09:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong for wanting to follow through with going after your dream job. If anything your husband is being a jerk for not supporting you and understanding that you want this job.
2007-11-08 09:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were him following his life passion, you would support him and be his cheerleader?
He has no more rights to his life than you do to your own.
You'll need to balance how much you want either, to settle your decision, but I'm disappointed in anyone who disses something someone they love has an interest in, especially if it means ALOT to the loved person. grrr.
He should definitely provide you with the REASON he is negative about your goals and dreams. There may be some reason that is more interesting than just selfishness? Let's hope.
2007-11-08 09:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by SHE_ROWDY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life, and you shouldn't have to give up your dream of becoming a policewoman because your husband is being small-minded and selfish.
Besides, if he's really serious about the "I'll divorce you!" thing, that just goes to show that he's controlling and puts his needs before yours.
Who need someone like that in their lives?
2007-11-08 09:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by April 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trying to control you by threatening divorce I wouldn't put up with at all. If he means it you would need to choose. He may be really worried and have decided he can't wait for the phone call saying you died everyday for the rest of your career. In that case you have to choose but not everyone is cut out to be a spouse of a officer.
2007-11-08 09:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hells bells, do what your dream is as 20 years from now who knows what will be happening. Believe me you'll turn around twice and be 45 years old and way too old to make those choices. A husband and wife should discuss things for sure but the resounding answer is really yours. Follow your heart, your brain is sure to follow. Good luck. cheers.
2007-11-08 09:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you tell him or does he know what do you feel about the whole thing and why do you want to join?
could that be because he heard something about this job that makes him feel threatened that it can effect your life as a couple?
explain to him that it will not!
that's what i can come up with right now, but any way,
successful relationship should have some sacrifices, may be you should think about another job or may be he should look at it differently,
that's why i'm still single ;)
2007-11-08 10:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Default 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it!
then when your divorce goes through come and arrest me! LOL!
on a serious note if you want to do then do it! he's not much of a supportive husband if he has now changed his mind. but then, what about your children? have you BOTH considered child care or something similar?
if your fit enough, as well physically (nudge nudge) lol and you know you have what it takes to see it all the way through then there's nothing to stop you.
ps send me a pic when you pass out lol
2007-11-08 09:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your life, not his sweetheart. If it's your dream, go for it. There was a saying way back that I can't remember all that well, but it went something like this. "Your life is the only one you get, so live it as if you can't do anything else." It's your life. It's your dream. If you want this for you, than do it!
As for your husband, tell him "tough" and he's just going to have to suck it up. You have to live your own life, not his. If he's unhappy with it, let him sulk in his own corner. Live your life, not the people around you.
Good luck!!!!
2007-11-08 09:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by This Kid 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋