Your husband or wife's past?

Question

Did you husband or wife have a wild past? Partied a lot, slept with a lot of people, cheating, did drugs...etc?

Yes....did it make you more comfortable knowing they got it out of their systems and were able to learned from their mistakes?

No....did it make you feel more comfortable because you know that they would never go back to those wild days or even have it on their minds?

Answer 1

My husband did have a wild past.
It does make me more comfortable knowing that he got it out of his system and learned from his mistakes.
If he hadn't experienced some of those things then I think I would be worried because he would be tempted by the unknown.

Answer 2

Whether I choose "Yes" or "No" it's sad to me that you almost seem to assume that everyone HAS to have a past of promiscuity or drugs or something...well for the most part your right...and thats really a terrible shame.

As for my wife and I, I thank God everyday that we did not give in to the pitfalls of our college days and youth. Granted, there were near misses, no one is perfect, but our marriage has been solidified and blessed THOUSANDS over because neither of us fell into anything really spiritually damaging.

For us, the fact that we waited to set off on our adventures together has made everything so much more enjoyable. You want to hear the REAL definition of the adage "live life to the fullest?" Try living according to God's plan for our lives and see if the floodgates of blessing doesn't take your breathe away!

Answer 3

My husband slept with a lot more people than I did. I was a virgin when we'd met and he'd slept with over 10 women. I didn't like it and I still don't want to think about it, but now he's with me and that's all that matters. The past is something that is behind us and can't be changed. The way I see it is that if anything was changed about his past we may never have met. I love him for who he is, and his past is part of that so I just have to accept it and love him.

Answer 4

this question actually made me think.. something that doesn't happen very often and makes my brains ache when it does happen.

case#1. (my older bro, the man whore in younger years). he's partied like animal house, boned more women than chins in Chinese phone book, and one day, settled downed with a woman and became responsible ideal husband and a father.

case#2. (my parent's friend's A+daughter). grew up as a daughter in wealthy upper middle class, graduated with honors in West Point Military academy(harder school than Harvard) married a doctor as a virgin, had 2 kids and one day realized she's never been 'free' to party...made some Britney like friends, partying all night, never coming home, and finally abandoned her family to be never heard from again.

I think most of us who partied a lot, screwed nameless, faceless many, sometimes regrets on their past... then some miss their past. and opposite example is also true.

I think a lot has to do with the present. if you're happy right now, you don't revert back to the shady past, or wonder how it is on the 'dark side'.

Answer 5

My husband isn't a wild kind of guy - never has been. He had relationships in his past, but nothing crazy.

I don't think I was necessarily wild, but in my early twenties I dated guys 15-20 years older me and dated a lot. I was also interested in women but never got the chance to hook up.

But the important thing to remember is - the past is the past and we must let it go and move on. We can't enjoy the present until the past is behind us.

Answer 6

My husband has a very "tame" past (mine is "wild" by comparison). I've gone back and forth between feeling comfortable with the fact that he doesn't seem to have an inclination towards dangerous behavior, and being uncomfortable about him maybe not having been "inoculated" against some of these things. I myself have learned from my experience - but he seems to have chosen to bypass certain types of experience altogether. I just hope it doesn't backfire one day.

Answer 7

Well I was the one with a wild past and I can say that once I got married I completly cut out the wild stuff and really settled down..On the other hand my wife didn't get to experience some of the things I did in my past so it makes me wonder does she still want too. she still likes to hang out and go to clubs where I have been there done that..

Answer 8

Husband says I'm too skinny?

Answer 9

I'm the one with the wild past... I left it behind when I got married... a sort of been there done that!

As for my husband, he didn't do much and has made up for it over the last couple of years... We've had our fights about it, and it seems he is on his settling down part of life...

Answer 10

My boyfriend is 14 years older to me and he had a kind of wild past (sex, drugs, etc.). I am just glad that I didn't meet him until later in life. We always joke that if I had met him when he was my age, I wouldn't have liked him at all. But I got over it and accept that his past is his past. He is more mature and isn't interested in any of that anymore.