Sex b4 Marriage?

Question

How do you feel about it, and why is it so normal, when your religion says that it is not permissible?

i am totally against fornication, and adultery!

Answer 1

I am against it. For some it might be normal to show love or whatever. My religion doesn't say to have sex before marriage. It is better to be married than to live in sin. Some people really do wait until after marriage to have sex. :)

Answer 2

People got married a lot younger than they do today. People forget that. Also look at the way we dress compared to the way people dressed back then of that same age. I mean society wants guys to not think about sex all of the time. Well when a girls wearing something that says juicy on her a$s, is showing her underwear & her boobs are popping out what do you expect. I know the question is not, "do girls feel preasured into having sex before they get married." But i'm telling you, that's what the real question should be, & this is why. That & that people are supposed to wait far longer than they did back when these religious views were formed. And some of those religions accepted polygymy back then so a guy could be with more than one girl & wasn't considered adultry, or cheating, or wrong.

Answer 3

Peep This..and I mean Peep it.
No matter if your doing it or not doing it to marry a person means that you have to take out the time to get to know them and grow a respect for them and know that they are going to have your back in a pinch or squeeze. You have to take the time to know you can trust them to do what is right by you and yours.

With that in mind. I feel that I could go either way. If I met a man that wanted to hold on until we were married to do the do, if i cared and respected him enough to marry him. Id do it. Same thing goes with a dude that I just had to crash a wave on...I wouldnt lose respect for him..and if he possessed the qualities...Id marry him.

So the point is...if your morals say don't do it..then dont. Because when you start talking about marriage..there are a lot more things to be considered then the sex of it. theres the soul and the bond..and if you have that then the sex will come, in time, and with practice, and books, and advise of 40 year old ladies. One thing to keep in mind is that if you cut through the crap..you KNOW if someone is good or bad for you and you know if they are after the pie or the heart..follow the gut, and it'll take care of the rest.

Thats what i think

Answer 4

I think sex is for two people that are physically & emotionally ready.

If you are old enough to understand the risks (pregnancy, diseases, etc.) and mature enough to understand the relationship questions(do you love the partner?? Are you sure the partner loves you back?? Will the person be able to handle the responsibilites that come with sex??) If you feel comfortable with all these answers, then you're ready for sex.

As for the religion.....I'm a Catholic myself. Although I practice many things in the religion, I do not agree with all of it. Do you think the Catholic religion (or any religion for that matter) is 100% correct?? You pick and choose things that mean the most to your values. No religion should judge you.

The only person you have to prove your values to is yourself.

Answer 5

Boy, this is a hot topic!!

I always thought I'd wait until I was married, but then my future husband came along and well. . .we couldn't wait. BUT we got married, had two kids and are still together (16+ yrs. if you count the yrs. we dated).

The committed relationship we call marriage doesn't happen on a single day at the church alter (that's a wedding and there's a difference) and - boom - you are suddenly totally different people. Marriage is the commitment between two people regardless of the ceremony. . .that's just to celebrate your love with family and friends. God already knows you love one another. He knows the commitment is there. If you have that, then it's ok to show it to one another physically.

As a mom, I'd hope my kids would wait until their wedding night, but if they find their future spouse and s/he is THE ONE, then I'd give them my blessing (not that they'd ask!!)

Answer 6

I don't approve, cause some people might use you just for sex, and you'll feel bad after words. If you marry some body, the bible says it will be like the first time.
My aunt had sex before she was married, she used a condom, with a guy that said he would stay with her forever. The condom broke and when she told her she was pregnant he left her. Now she raises a 14 yr old child by herself.

Answer 7

We're animals and it's natural to be drawn to sex. Religion is a way to control people, so it makes sex something to feel guiilty about. It also tries to ensure that the child will have support without being a drain on society.

Answer 8

I feel, it's not exactly wrong, but it's muchh better to wait.
It's normal b/c people can't always control their hormones, and they just get into the moment, and end up having it. Of course, though it is better to wait [I'm a Christian, that's one of my reasons, the fact that you can save yourself from pregnancy with a person who will leave you, and STDS] if you are going to not wait till marriage, it would be best to do it with someone you loved, not someone you've been dating for a couple monthes.

Answer 9

If it's a stable, committed, monogamous relationship where the pair is mature enough to protect themselves, and/or is fully capable of raising and nurturing a child, should one result, there's nothing wrong with it.

My BF and I both believe that God only abhors sex without genuine love.
And it was the church that took a natural human expression of love and perverted it into something to be ashamed of.

Answer 10

Look at the world today. We have lost all moral and principal values. There is no commitment anymore. If things don't go their way people are so quick to just get a divorce.

You have to have a strong foundation in order for your marriage to survive. Sex between a man and woman is reserved only for when you are in a committed relationship.

Don't just have sex cause it feels good. There is so much more to it than that. Men don't want to marry someone who is readily available for him. Why bother if you give it up on a silver platter.

Don't Do IT. Until you have a ring and a date and you are truly committed to one another. GOOD LUCK!