I'm 23, he is 26, and we have been married for almost 3 years. I like to be social, and around friends a lot, clubbing, social drinking, dancing.... He perfers to go to a movie, dinner, or something simple. He does not drink, or dance at all. Although I love to see a movie from time to time, but if that's all we do as a couple, that can get boring. Does anyone have a marriage like this and does it work in the long run???
2007-11-08 07:38:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My father is very shy and quiet and my mother is extremely outgoing and a social butterfly! They will be married 28 years in February!
Same situation with my partners parents, except I believe they've been married over 30 years!
2007-11-08 07:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a marriage similar to this. My husband works ALOT> and when he is off he enjoys staying home, cooking a nice dinner, and chillin on the couch. I'm much more busy and like to run around, whether it be out with the girls, or to my family's, or just out and about. Make time to compromise in for both people. Have two nights a week, one night you choose, and make the deal that he cant complain if you wont complain on his night. Ease him into being more social, and then have a night doing what he enjoys. You will both learn to appreciate the time together from two different aspects. Marriage is all about compromise.
2007-11-08 07:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jengi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tyler, why are clubbing and dancing not married activities? What married people aren't aloud to go to clubs and dance? Please...they both don't have to enjoy the same activities together, but they should have some activities that they enjoy doing together and be secure enough to let each other enjoy their own personal activities. If cheating becomes too much of a temptation for one or the other then maybe they curb the outside activities.
2007-11-08 08:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it works out great.
Myself is the stay at home, and my wife is the social butterfly.
We have discussed it and came up with rules. First be honest with each other. If I am uncomfortable and want to go home, then we go home, but I make the call, I know it is important to her to be there and have a good time. So I give as much time as I can, and then we go home.
Same goes for when we are home, if she gets stir crazy, she makes the call, and we go out.
I get what I want, and she gets what she wants. On top of that, it has helped me get social, and has helped her slow down.
2007-11-08 07:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are not ready to settle down. It doesnt' sound like a social issue, but a maturity issue. Clubbing, dancing, and so forth aren't married couple activities, for the most part, regardless of how outgoing or social you are.
2007-11-08 07:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 8 years now, my husband is pretty social and I am a total homebody. We get along great, you just have to be fair. Sometimes, even if i don't want to I will go out with him to his friends or a bar and sometimes we will just stay in. Just be open about your relationship. Don't do things he wants to 100 % of the time or you will end up resenting him because you aren't doing what you want, vice versa.
2007-11-08 07:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will work if the two of you will talk about it. the two of you got married becoz you love the person as a whole meaning you accepted everything about him. his likes and dislikes, his moods, his family, his friends etc. so there's nothing wrong if you talk about it but for me as a married woman. you should know your limits. i know you are a social person but yoiur married already so there are things that you should lessen like clubbing, drinking, hanging out with friends. You should give more quality time to your husband. your husband wants a simple life for the two of you. He prefers whatever he wants becoz he wanted to be with you. you are very lucky becoz you have a husband like that. that's why he came to your life to make your life simple.
2007-11-08 08:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by chuminera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my friends and I have married opposite ourselves. In our marriage, I'm the social one and my husband is the introvert. I can't deny that there are times of frustration but my husband is patient, loyal, faithful, and very attentive to me. I wouldn't trade him for the world. Since I need more social activity than he does, I plan girl times out that would not put me in any compromising positions. He trusts me and is very confident in himself so there's no jealousy. It works for us.
2007-11-08 07:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lacey G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 10 years, and My husband is very social, I am too, NOW stay at home mom for 10 years) He is alot more social then me because he has more friends and gets to get out of the house, he loves to go out with his friends and drink and sing and have fun, but when we go out all he wants to do is go to movies and dinner, Which i love to do too, but he seems like he has more fun with his friends then with me, he says he enjoys both , but is much more relaxed with me and just wants it to be us. but I resent him alot because he never wants to go out and have fun with me, just his friends
2007-11-08 07:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by chicksmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am a non-sociable person but my husband isn't. and we have been married for over five years. You just have compromise and do what the other person like to do sometimes. It can work.
2007-11-08 07:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by Art 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋