2007-11-08 07:25:54 · 49 answers · asked by FavoredbyU 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, done that, and it took me 10 years to realize that life is too short to be living it that way. I think if you are truly unhappy and know you want out, you do not only YOURSELF an injustice by staying, but the person you're with too, because your heart is really not in it. Only you know what you've been through. It's easy for people to tell you stay, you're married, period...when they have no idea what you've been treated like, made to feel, etc. I say you HAVE to follow your heart. Listen to your inner voice. I doubt when you get to the end of your life you're gonna say, "I wish I'd stayed in a dead relationship longer just for the sake of the marraige certificate." What will you be saying? You have to be true to YOURSELF before you can be true to anyone else, and that's the solid truth. Don't worry about those that would judge you. Observe, do some inner soul searching, and then do what you know you have to do. It's OKAY to move on and be happy. If you think you can work it out, that's great too, but when it comes right down to it, you need to do what's best for you.
2007-11-08 07:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It's never too late to make a change that will make your life better in the long run. Staying just because you have a history is an awful idea. You should free yourself to find the RIGHT person, who you can make a new and better history with!
GOOD LUCK!
p.s. I know how hard it is to leave when there's SO many memories, I've been there before. But I did the right thing and am with my true love now... I suffered through a tough time to get to where I was meant to be!
2007-11-08 07:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dragonfly Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT obligated to! If you are unhappy then change it. If it's the wrong person then don't delay. Of course I have the same problem as you and I don't know what to do either. So my advice might not be the best. I can advise people on what they should do, but I never follow it! How sad is that. I hope you're stronger than me. History can be re-written. You can and should leave. Like I said, I'm in a similiar situtation and lately all I can think is "Is this how my life is going to end?" I'm probably older than you though, I'm 40. I don't want my life to be like this. Do you?
2007-11-08 07:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I am getting older I am learning that happiness is an essential part of ANY and ALL relationships in my world.Not just my own happiness but the other people involved.If I am not happy then chances are the other person knows it and is also not happy.Once that conclusion is reached then its up to you if YOU think its worth fixing then start all the neccessary steps to fix it,However if you feel it is not fixable then be fair to both of you be honest about it with the person so that you and them can find the happiness you both deserve.
History is a good thing its history between people that make them great and wonderful friends if you are able and willing to have that as an option...
Hope That Helps,
M.G
2007-11-08 07:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is an awful long time. I don't think that you should "jump ship" just yet; but still what if you find out something later . . . And then you wished that you would have . . . You know . . . "Called it quits" because "Not enough ever happened that could have kept our relationship that interesting." . . . So to speak. You know, sometimes two people can just get caught up in the rut of it all. I hope you do okay. Take care.
2007-11-08 07:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you no longer have feelings for them what good is it doing either of you to stay together? My answer is know if you feel like there is no connection romantically you are cheating both of you by staying just for history's sake. Let the other person move on.
2007-11-08 07:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!
The only thing worse than being with the wrong person for 5 years....is being with them for 5 years and 1 day!
End the relationship and find the right person....but you can't be successful in a relationship until you resolve all YOUR issues first.
2007-11-08 07:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negative and the same is true if children are involved. If you have been in a relationship for 5 years with the wrong person, and it is not gettting any better, its time you find the right person.
2007-11-08 07:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ron S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends. If you have children together, step to the plate, get into counceling, and find out how you can make your relationship better. "Wrong person" doesn't really say much. If he is abusive, a drunk, cheating, yadadadyadya, then no. If your marriage just needs some fluffing, then get some help. Getting into serial monogomy is a sad situation.
2007-11-08 07:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Ask yourself this- Are you happy? If the answer is no you will break up later if not now. Later could mean marriage and having kids and divorce should be avoided at all costs, especially for the kids sake. Good luck, I hope you make the right choice.
2007-11-08 07:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋