my ex is planning my son frist holy commuion with her new husband and has not told me help!!!!
2007-11-08 07:16:57 · 21 answers · asked by sydney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
demand that u r allowed 2 go as u have a right just as much as her 2 be there
2007-11-08 07:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by in love and its great 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How'd you find out?
If it is important to you, call her up and tell her that you heard about this from so and so (or your son) and let her know you are really excited and you want to know how you can be involved and help out with the planning.
Don't even mention the fact that she didn't tell you...She might think you don't care. Don't be territorial or nasty about this, this will set the tone for a lot of future events including graduations and his wedding and whatnot.
Congrats on your son making communion.
2007-11-08 19:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am all for fathers being fully involved in their kids lives. My ex husband is and him and my husband now are friends. People have to get on with their lives. I think you should talk to your ex and tell her that your hurt that you have not been involved and that even though you have both moved on there is no reason why you all can't be friends,at least for your sons sake.
Offer your help for the day.
GOOD LUCK!!
Haze x x
2007-11-08 08:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by hazegalpin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your ex should have told you about her plans at the end of the day your still in the childs life,if you werent then it would be different,go and have a chat with her tell her your not happy at the fact of being the last to find out and tell her you want to be there,and ask her if theres anything you can do to help good luck
2007-11-08 07:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by tracey d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about it. Let her know that if she is planning this, maybe you could assist her or at least attend. I know this sounds over the top but I have been divorced for 10 years and my ex and I have attended all of those functions together. Think about it, how many times will they take communion?? Exactly!!
2007-11-08 07:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to help in what way? If she's planning a party at her house, why would she want you to help? If she's planning the ceremony at the church, then you just need to show up during those sessions. She can't keep you from participating - you are the child's father.
2007-11-08 07:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by porcelina_68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not on, she should involve you considering that you are the father. have a word with her about it and tell her that you would like to be involved (if in fact you do want to be) and you definitely want to attend. Also let her know that in the future you would like to be consulted with anything that involves your son
2007-11-08 07:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had things like that done by my ex,not sure how old your son is but just dnt react and when the boy is old enough you,ll be able to have a proper relationship with him. i have a girl and have been outcasted when christmas,birthdays ect come around,but now she is 5 and we arrange things together,DNT REACT IN A BAD WAY plays in his mums hands trust me
2007-11-08 07:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by romancer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a problem GET to the bottom ASAP! Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-11-08 09:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your son, is that correct?
I like a lot of people here (I'm sure) think you have the right to be there!
2007-11-08 07:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋