Every time I think I'm done and ready to head out the door he tells me how much he loves me and wants to fight for our marriage. This is the only time I hear this and it makes me feel guilty for wanting to leave. We've been together for 7 years and have two kids together. I WILL NOT say together for the kids so all you people out there who think Marriage is an abomination or whatever can just save it. I am a perfect expample of parents staying together for the kids and I went through hell!
Anyway... I feel like I've been fighting for this marriage for a long time and I'm tired. Do I give him ONE more chance? He is willing to do anything and everything to make me happy. The reason(s) I want to leave him are becuase he is selfish and insulting and there is no passion in our relationship. We went 9-12 months at a time with NO sex to just name a few of our problems.
2007-11-08 07:10:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been to two different marriage counselors to no avail.
2007-11-08 07:14:38 · update #1
I do have experience with this. You are going through the process of sorting it all out. You need to know that you have done all that you can to save your marriage. It sounds like you are like me and won't leave with out any stone unturned. Keep turning the stones until they are all turned over, when they are all done, don't feel guilty for not going back and turning them back over again. Hopefully you can find a way to make it work If not....there is a happy place for you and you will find it.
2007-11-08 07:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first order of things is the marriage counseling, do it with an open heart and think positively. After the marriage coounseling is over see how things are developing and the most important thing is having a open communication line directly w your hubby. If done right, things will work out i've been through hell myself during the past few months but Im willing to give it a second chance.
Also try to remeber divorce is a quick fix to more deeply rooted problems you both might have.
These issues that you have should be addressed by a proffessional and do as he says.
2007-11-09 04:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wonder why do women stay with an a$$hole for so long? The kids will take it bad but once their old enough you should explain it to them what went wrong. The fighting in the house is worse then the divorce for a child. If there's no passion I can't imagine being with some one. I say you leave. We all have different morals so don't worry what people say.
2007-11-08 07:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by b_solrac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends if you realy want to stay in the marrage.
if you want to try and make it work, you need to communicate with eachother more than just when your heading out the door. he has to be willing to talk. if hes willing to do that,then you should try counceling.
If he is going to be abusive and selfish then there isnt going to be a way to make it work unless he is realy willing to change.
A marrage is 50/50.
the key to a good marrage and a good relationship is trust and communication - without these you have nothing - if you have only one then the relationship ends up being lopsided and someone if not both of you are going to be unhapppy.
it sounds like the marrage has realy gone downhill.
and it also sounds like he trys to play on your feelings
we cant tell you what to do - you have to come to that conclusion yourself
you have to draw the line some where as to haow many chances you give him and put yourself through the same ol thing.
good luck !
2007-11-08 07:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its important to look at what store the receipt is from as well as what was purchased. It could give you clues as to whether he was skipping work to do something he shouldnt have been doing. If its something common, like groceries, maybe the time was wrong. Try and think back to when he purchased the item on the receipt. Perhaps its from a supply store and he had to pick something up for his office? If that doesnt help, I would call, or go to the store, and ask the cashiers if the time is usually right and i would enquire about the item that was purchased on the receipt. Once again, if its something minute, I wouldnt worry about. But obviously if its something that he shouldnt have been buying then you should certainly bring it up.
2016-04-03 02:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be up to you. But, you need to tell him that he needs to not only be willing to do what it takes to make you happy, but he has to actually DO it - all of the time - not just when you are ready to leave.
2007-11-08 07:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by porcelina_68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same things you are telling us, tell your husband. If he really wants to keep his marriage together he will change. Hope things work out.
2007-11-08 07:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let him read your post, and tell him what you wrote here. Tell him you wont put up with it anymore, I have had similar problems lately, but since I told him how I feel, he has been alot better lately. because he knows Im serious.
2007-11-08 07:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by chicksmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need marriage counselling. Get it for the kids sake.
2007-11-08 07:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by FILE 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing is a very childish ploy to get you to stay. Its like the child who promises mommy he will be good if she won't punish him. As long as he can get you to stay, he doesn't need to grow up.
2007-11-08 07:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋