My brothers getting married next month it's an evening wedding and my mother inlaw told me I shouldn't bring my 8 month old son witch I Kind of agree we as the receptionist wil probably run late but my whole family is going to be there and is expecting me to bring him? What do you think?
2007-11-08 06:46:17 · 35 answers · asked by Baby0219 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Oh just another thing the wedding is 4 hours away so there is no way for me to have a babysitter half the night and bring him half the night
2007-11-08 06:59:25 · update #1
An evening wedding is inappropriate for a baby, etiquette-wise. But if your family is all from out of town or something, ask your brother and his fiance how they feel about it. If they are ok with it, then you could maybe take the baby for a bit, just to see your family and take him home to a sitter and return to the wedding? Good luck!
2007-11-08 06:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
If this is a religious wedding in a church, most churches have "Crying Rooms" you can attend your brother's wedding, view the ceremony, and prevent your child from disrupting it from this very room. As for the reception, I would get a sitter, very few brides want to be upstaged on their special day and a 'baby' will do just that. If the child can't walk, talk, and sit in a chair by itself, it's "cuteness" and "need for attention" will definitely distract from the bride.
So I would say, "Crying Room" then the Sitter before the reception. Anyone in your family that wants to see the baby can do so during the interim between the two when the bridal party is taking its photographs.
Unless this is a destination wedding, or one where you have to travel some distance, then those inviting you should expect that the baby comes or you don't come, and since it's your brother's wedding, not coming is not an option.
I hope this helped.
2007-11-08 06:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by fetuskiller24 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a couple of options.
1)You can ignore the mother in law and take the baby. But be sure to stay in the back of the church so you can make a quick exit if baby is noisy.
2) You can line up a babysitter for the wedding part, then bring him to the reception so that family can ooh and ahh at him. then when he gets tired, make a polite exit or hand him back off to the baybsitter.
3) Bring him to the rehersal dinner so the family can ooh and aww at him. Then line up a sitter for the wedding day/night. That way those most close to you see the baby the night before and everyone else can see pictures during the reception. Not taking the baby to the wedding and reception might be nice for you and your husband. That way you get to have a date night and relax with family and friends.
:)
2007-11-08 06:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Bethy O. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have a part in the wedding you could just sit close to a door just in case he gets loud. The ceremony won't last that long, and at the reception he can be as loud as he wants. You could also have young person (early teens) in the family sit with you next to the door and have him/her take him out if he gets loud....that way you won't miss any part of the wedding. Or you could have someone babysit and arrange for the babysitter to bring the baby to you as the reception starts. It would be nice for the family to be able to see him, but it's also understandable if you'd rather him not be there. It might be more stressful than it's worth.
2007-11-08 06:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anasmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is best to find a trustworthy babysitter.Your family can see your son the day after or make arrangments to see him because although he may be a sweet child,he will definately not enjoy himself.Being a baby he will be fussy,agitated and become hard to please once all the stress begins to set in.This is a chance for you and significant other to have a relaxing time enjoying your brothes wedding,dont feel bad when someone approaches you and ask's "wheres the baby" just tell them you think he would be too fussy and not enjoy himself to be at an evening wedding. If they love you and the baby they will understand. Go have a good time and leave baby happy at home.
2007-11-08 06:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by happyhive7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you feel that you shouldn't bring your baby with you, than don't!
It's yoouurrr baby boy, and not your family's. It's your final decision whether or not to take him here or there..
Also, weddings usually run late and the poor thing will probably get cranky and tired and start crying.. This makes you probably feel really upset, and you may feel bad for your baby.. plus, you probably won't have as much fun??
I think that you should go with your instincts. If you want the baby to go, bring him, if not, don't bring him!
=)
have fun at the wedding! =D
2007-11-08 06:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask you brother and his fiance what they want you to do. If they tell you to go ahead and bring the baby, be prepared that your son might start screaming during the service and you'll have to take him outside, or he'll be way too exhausted to stay for the entire reception and you will have to leave early and put him to bed. Plus, it won't be a whole lot of fun for you to take care of your son rather than celebrating! If all else fails, maybe your mother-in-law will stay home and babysit so you can go out and have fun. :)
2007-11-08 06:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jacqueline D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are exclusively nursing, you can bring him. He's immediate family. :)
If children are allowed at the wedding, yes, bring him. I know that some people say that kids ruin weddings, but I find the opposite to be true. I had kids at my wedding and they had so much fun and made a lot of people smile. :)
My son was 3 months old and came to my cousin's wedding. I was nursing, I wasn't about to leave him anywhere. It was a blast. :)
This is your brother... he will allow your little one to be there.
2007-11-08 09:48:17 · answer #8 · answered by AV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the invitation said and family bring him. If not leave him behind. I would generally sit at the back or at the end so that if he begins to act up you can make an easy exit. As for the reception definetly bring him, it is a less formal thing and he won't be eating much. Good luck to you.
2007-11-08 07:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by bluefroggy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is defintely ok. When my daughter was 4 months old, I took her to a evening wedding. She loved seeing all the dresses, and we sat in the back, just in case she got noisy. As for it being late, there are times where you just can't keep them on a schedule. If a child always had to be on a set schedule, then you could never leave the house!!
Would you mil still be saying that, if it were a wedding on HER side of the family?
2007-11-08 06:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by linedancer563 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a huge supporter of having babies at weddings... but you have to make sure its a good place for the baby to be. What will you do when the baby is tired and ready for bed? Are you going to leave early? Will you be staying over night and one of you can take the baby to the hotel room?
I definitely think its great to have babies at weddings, but you have to plan accordingly. From the little bit I know, this scenario doesn't seem to be good for the baby... have a good date night with your wife!
2007-11-08 07:37:48 · answer #11 · answered by amber 18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋