How would you feel/look at a man if he told you he's been with a prostitute before?

Question

LOL @ language is a disease

What part would exactly make you lose respect? Isn't prostitution rather an honest business?

Answer 1

Similiar to my response to your other question, I would think nothing differently of him, it wouldn't change what I like or dislike about him before he shared this with me, as there are many reasons why people go to prostitutes, which are not of concern to me.

Answer 2

Women here SERIOUSLY over-estimate how easy it is for men to get sex. MANY men, NORMAL and OTHERWISE SUCCESSFUL and even on many occasions good looking men have had dry spells lasting YEARS (myself included). It might be easy for WOMEN to have sex anytime they want (with always the exactly the same small class of men they b**** about later) but for the vast majority of men, even in relationships, that is most certainly not the case.

If you truly want to understand men instead of raving at them, I cannot stress this point enough. For women getting laid is a choice, for men getting laid is a chore, actually more like trying to do bureaucracy in Kafka's universe. Ask ANY man if he is fulfilled and satisfied with the amount of sex he is getting and the chances are he will say no (unless he fears that this answer will cost him sex).

Nevertheless, I never went to a prostitute. While I don't judge anyone FOR ME personally it would have been self-defeating, plus I never had any sexual hang-ups, only social hang-ups and phobias approaching women. It's ridiculous, why the hell doesn't someone TELL men that approaching women is OK???

Ah, and I see how judgmental women really are. When there was a question a while ago about women hiring male escorts (see that sounds much classier) NOT A PEEP!

Answer 3

I think I can understand it if he is disabled. I would just feel sad because he would much rather be in a real relationship.

I think it's not cool. If he is a friend of mine I would say that.

If he is someone I might want to date than I wouldn't anymore.

But prostitution is pretty normal and a fact of life I think. It is nothing in Washington. Men see call girls, call girls are called in for other men as a favour.. a cost of doing business...you know the deal.

Answer 4

Wow, it sounds like everyone here really has some issues with this concept. Okay folks, stone me if you will, but I don't agree with any of you.

My ex had his first time and every time for the next 2.5 years after that with a prostitute. He wasn't shy about telling me this and it never occurred to me to feel ashamed or disgusted or ridicule him for it.

His step father was military and at 18 he joined. He hadn't stepped foot in America since he was 11. While some of the daughters of other military men were attractive to him, he was not allowed to date women from the countries in which they were living. He was painfully shy when he was younger and couldn't force himself to talk to anyone...boy or girl.

He was extremely careful about STDs, and by the time his Korea tour was over and he was back in the USA, his personality had done a 180. He was no longer the shy introvert. He had confidence in himself and his abilities, he knew he was worth something and had the ability to show that to other people.

He is unable to determine how much of that was military training, and how much of that was confidence he gained from the time he spent with the prostitutes, but they were both important to the transformation.

People who think going to a prostitute is gross, demeaning, subjugation, blah, blah, blah...need to stop and think for a minute. There is always a "why" attached to every action...even if people don't always know what it is.

Answer 5

love how everyone assumed that the prostitute was female and therefore the man was degrading women...

I've dated a porn star, and I'm a male who once got paid for sex. And you guys have some really warped views, and apparently not much knowledge of basic biology or sexuality..

Paying for sex does not by itself put you at higher risk for catching an STD. Having sex with someone who is infected does. You assume that a prostitute will have one while a random person off the street will not. That is foolish, and is the reason why so many people get STD's. They assume that the person that they are with is clean. You should assume that EVERYONE you have sex with has something, until they prove otherwise. You and you alone are responsible for your own sexual health.

Answer 6

It would depend on time, If I am interested in him and he just been with a prostitute I don't believe I will be nice.
If it was a while ago and he tested clean, I really wouldn't care. Time is a big factor. My respect and opinion of him would definitley go down.

Answer 7

I think I'd be completely disgusted. You could make the argument that prostitution is an honest business, but that doesn't make it morally right, at least in my opinion. It's specific on personal beliefs and morals.

Answer 8

Like he might be a bit dirty. Quite the turnoff really when you think about it.

The problem is that I have a sneaking suspition that MOST men have been to a pro.

Hey guys -anyone care to venture a guess on the % of men who've been to a pro?

Edit: It's the kind of thing you know happens and on a logical level are okay with but you don't want to hear about it because you've been conditioned to believe it is wrong.

Answer 9

I've had an ex who told me he had been to a prostitute before. It didn't bother me. Honestly, ever since I went into sex work (not prostitution, but I have worked as both a Dominatrix and a dancer) friends and acquaintances have been confessing all kinds of things to me. I don't think people realize how common things they consider "sexual deviancy" really are.

Answer 10

hello doll face,

to be honest... I would think less of them. I am sitting here thinking to myself why, and I guess it has to do with self control. if you NEED sex so bad that you go to the extreme of pay for it, it says something about a persons self control and patience. imo (not to mention the STD risk, yuckerz)


btw, have you seen the Lioness clone yet, LOINESS. lol