What Should I do?

Question

My Husband and I have been married for 2 yrs and we are always arguing and we both love each other but we don't get along and were at the point of going our seperate ways! We don't want to break up but don't know how to go forward were considering marriage conseling, but what are something we can do to work at things now waht should we try to do!

Answer 1

If you really love each other then, what could be the problem? Is it a problem of one of you having the need to control the other? What attracted the two of you to each other in the first place? Why did you decide to get married? Why did you feel that you wanted to marry this guy? and why did he feel that he wanted to marry you? Do the two of you remember? Do you really love each other or is it just that you both have a strong sexual desire for each other? You should both question your motives for wanting to be together. In a relationship people have to be able to compromise or else it just doesn't work. Maybe before you go to a counselor the two of you should try to honestly analyse your relationship and take notes. What do you argue about? Why does a conversation turn into an arguement? Do you care about each others point of view? How do the two of you understand love. Doesn't love have to do with giving to one another and not taking. If you love someone, then, the other person's happiness is very important to you. I remember reading about these students who were studying with a great rabbi. They were very poor and in one case six students shared one blanket. It is said that they all were able to share the blanket comfortably because each student cared more about the comfort of the others than about his own comfort so no one tried to hog the blanket.

Answer 2

A good place to start would be to take out the wedding album and relive some of the past. These walks down memory lane can go a long way to spark some of the emotions from the past.

Also you need to make sure that you are both communicating A LOT. That is the only way you are both going to get back on track with out the services of a professional counselor.

Answer 3

I think you guys should try counseling. It may work as long as there are no real issues between the two of you. I mean if the only problem is the both of you are getting on each others nerves you should be able to work it out. This is marriage and you probably get tired of seeing each other sometime. Its normal. Take sometime for yourself.
As long as no one is being abused, no one is cheating you both are still in love. What exactly are you walking away from?

Btw: Thanks for the advice last time. I took it. :-)

Answer 4

when there is a problem, sit down and discuss things calmly. take turns talking with each other, stressing how you are FEELING... no finger pointing or bringing up the past... work on the here and now, not the dead and gone.

if you can't come to a solution, then compromise.

Answer 5

take time go out somewhere nice take a trip do things that amade him fall in love with you and tell him to do things that made you fall in love with me be spontanous make love like you have never before talk like best friends be free with him.

Answer 6

Hunny, counseling might work, something is going on between you two that you aren't expressing.

Answer 7

commuinaction. tell eachother what bothers you bout each other and how each of you can do to change. but marriage counsler i think would be best

Answer 8

use this weekend to go on a romantic outing. then you should recall why you got together in the first place.

Answer 9

just like avoiding surgery......exhaust all other options...when u know that youve done everything you can....then leave...i know its hard but...dont waste 20 years of your life

Answer 10

take you a trip and spend sometime by yourself