2007-11-08 05:35:17 · 20 answers · asked by lexi . 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This question is coming from someone who watched her parents hate each other for as long as she can remember and wished her parents and parents in the same situation would split. I like the Dr. Phil thing. Its true. I would rather have come from a broken home then lived in one. I just need reassurance that I'm not the only one that thinks this way.
2007-11-08 05:57:11 · update #1
better to split, but remain functional parents to your children, co-parenting until they are grown.
2007-11-08 05:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think it's better to split...... children are small only for so many years, they won't be there forever and I don't think it's worth sacrifying your life and your happiness only in order "not to hurt them".......... that's a lousy excuse that coward people who do not want out of an unhappy marriage (for their personal reasons: money, insecurity, etc.) make up to justify their staying, but they don't think that by living a miserable life with a person they can't stand they will be damaging them as well, maybe even more. I know it's a tough call....... but I'd leave if I were in this situation.
2007-11-08 15:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You only get one life! Why be miserable your whole life for your whole kids. What I am trying to say is that divorce isn't that bad.
My parents divorced when I was 8 and it didn't bother me that much. I got to still see my dad every weekend and I got 2 birthdays, 2 Christmases. It was much better spending time with the both of them rather than seeing my parents always fighting and unhappy. It stresses the kids out too.
Remember!! Try to work it out! If it won't fix, then move on! You have 1 life and you don't want to be miserable the rest of it!
2007-11-08 05:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay split. If the two of you agree on this then it can be done a professional way. You both can remind friend, who knows you may end up being best friends. You two just can't live together but you sure can raise the kids together.
2007-11-08 06:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more detrimental on the children if you stay together and continuously show that hate each other. Most kids in those situations pray their parents will divorce.
HOWEVER, if you are only apathetic to each other and can get along in a reasonable and polite manner then I think staying together for the children is acceptable.
2007-11-08 05:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Staying together for the kids sake is such BS.The kids know you are miserable and they develop emotional problems or deep resentment because they can't cope with what you are putting them through with this. Not to mention that you are being unfair to yourself by staying with someone you hate...that is a situation that emotionally drains you.
2007-11-08 05:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Better to split and give the kids two happy homes, instead of 1 miserable one.
2007-11-08 05:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take Dr. Phil's advice: "children would rather BE from a broken home than LIVE in one"
2007-11-08 05:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you dont hate eachother, you just hate the other. once you see it that way, you are the one at fault and need a wake up call too. the kids should always have both parents, too bad some people pretend to care about kids so much , even their own, that they use them as an excuse to not want to work things out instead of a good reason to work things out. only peopel that have lost their children to this bullsh-- know what im talking about
2007-11-08 05:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by JWalker 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's better to stay together and work at your marriage. Marriage isn't easy, relationships aren't easy. Things change when effort is made. Try counselling, talking, working through the problems. It's not impossible.
2007-11-08 05:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Bernice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in exactly in same situation, in my heart of hearts i know we should and that we need to split up but i am so afraid of the upset it will cause the kids
some days we are just about civil to each other
some days we get on fine
some days we have blazing rows
but i think the days we get on fine are fewer and fewer now
what scares me are the practacalities of it and actually deciding it
if i go and tell him now i want to seperate he will throw a strop, get angry, say he is going to move out etc but it never gets any further than that because i feel guilty about it then
i almost wish he would just decide to leave me
so there is my answer for both of us!!!
best to imagine yourself without the rows, living your own life,
and weigh that up against what you have now!!!
let me know how you get on
i will be thinking of you
2007-11-08 05:48:12 · answer #11 · answered by toast 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋