okay so i have reached the end of my tether with partner, know in my heart the best thing for everyone is for us to split. have known for a long time but different things have held me back, ie. house, money, status, my own hangups about not having contact with my dad when i was a child, the practacalities of it, the upset it will cause to my life to my kids life etc
but i know i need to do this
how can i get some support to find the strength
2007-11-08 05:20:04 · 10 answers · asked by toast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will find a lot of support around once you let the weight off your shoulder and let the cat out of the bag.
2007-11-08 05:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Islander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advise I could give, Is that once you get the nerve to do it you will experience an amazing sense of relief that you can move on with your own life. I have been there once, long ago and the biggest thing for me was that my kids were so happy not living with the tension in the house on a daily basis! In fact it was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life, but it all turned out great. They are adults now and very happy. Collage grads and all! You will find strength you never knew you had. I did, and I had no Dad in my life as a child either! So Good Luck to you! Hope I helped.
2007-11-08 05:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by JannaB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Dr. Phil says "It is better to come from a broken home than to grow up in one." You are not doing your children any favors by staying together if you are not in a happy relationship. If you have truly tried to make things work, it is time to move on. Children learn from example. You want them to view marriage as a healthy and mutually supportive relationship. Staying in a bad marriage teaches them the opposite. You will take a financial hit and things won't always be easy - but there is "life after divorce". Try joining a divorce support group in your community. They are a great source of support and guidance. You might start by looking at your local churches. Good luck!
2007-11-08 05:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to surround yourself with positive people.
If you have a great friends, round them up!
Go out, do things, and get your mind on the future.
Relax some. If you don't have friends, you need to find some.
I'm sure there are Divorcee "group meetings" out there. Check for them in your area. You've come to a conclusion, you know what you want, now make a plan A...and a plan B...and start to execute the little steps you need to take to do this. There have been many of us before you and many of us after you, and I'm here to tell you, You're going to be okay!
It's just a matter of setting a goal, and making it happen. (I got that from a really great friend of mine. )
2007-11-08 05:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i am in the same situation and share the same value as you
. Do what is best and take time for your self and your children. think outside the box and seek divine intervention. But at the end of the day if you two we not meant or were meant to be together it will happen. good luck
2007-11-08 05:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by hotmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Toast,
You need to know, your not alone. I am experiencing all these things to. I am sorry! Its heart breaking and mind blowing. But our father in heaven say he has a plan for us. Plan for good and not evil. I go see a christian counselor every week and I might have tosend my daughter to do the same. Its gonna be OK! You will get stronger and I will be praying for you!
2007-11-08 05:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by mariaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write in a journal....it's remarkably therapeutic and besides that, listen to heart and just take things one day at a time....good luck! It does get easier, trust me!
2007-11-08 05:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be open and honest, if the realtionship is no longer working why hang around and be miserable both of you. come to an agreement if you can and if not then ask the court to set up a mediator.
2007-11-08 05:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by mexican leona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer to help you with the legal aspects. Get a therapist to help you learn the tools to cope with your life.
2007-11-08 05:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.networktherapy.com/resources/support_groups/topic.asp?id=398
2007-11-08 05:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Why ask me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋