i am married with children but in love with another man. I want to leave my husband but dont know if this man will be afraid i'll leave him 4 someone else too. i love him dearly and he says he loves me. My husband has caught us together and he is by my side always. What do i do? Iam very confused. Is this love?
2007-11-08 05:12:43 · 13 answers · asked by hotmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know, I'm not in your situation. It's your marriage, your life, your children, etc.
To me it sounds like another case of someone thinking that the grass is always greener....(FYI: It's not always!)
2007-11-08 05:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Love doesn't make you hurt other people. Love does not break up families. Love doesn't question whether it is love or not. If it was love, then you wouldn't have this question on the Internet. You would know. You should be worried will this man even want you when you are not married. Why would anyone want a woman that cheats on her husband? You need to get your priorities in order.
2007-11-08 13:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by MorenoK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not loving your husband. You are currently unfaithful and your children will be negatively affected by your infidelity the most.
Your best option is to be a mature and responsible adult, accept responsiblity for your immature actions, repent to your children and husband, go see a Counselor, and make things right, and get back to having a loving, trusting marriage.
Anything else (whether you justify it or not, gain support for being unfaithful or not) will destroy many lives.
You have already damaged for years your children's trust factor in you, as well as family in general. Why not try to salvage what little broken pieces you have left.
Or, just add to the statistics of broken marriages, broken homes, broken children of divorce, etc. Take the immature, easy road, which will lead you into yet another situation worse than your current one, although you think it will lead you to a form of pleasure and happiness.
2007-11-08 13:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current husband caught you in an affair, he's forgiving you and wants to keep you....!! What about this man don't you like? He sounds like a keeper.
The other man is a symptom of a problem in your marriage. Work on your current marriage with a counselor. You'll be glad you did. You have children to think of, not to mention a great husband.
2007-11-08 13:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by Richard F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my suggestion. Separate from your husband but do not start dating the other guy. You need to find out what its like to be alone, and get your barrings straight find out who you are again. You may find that its your husband you do want to be with or neither.
2007-11-08 13:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be pure infatuation and lust!
which is great but how secure? you dont seem to sure about this other man and the life you could have with him
if you really dont want to be with your husband anymore you might think about taking some time to yourself.........your hubby might agree to a trial seperation so you can decide what to do
but i would be cautious about deciding one way or the other right now
you need time for yourself to work out what you want and what is truly best for you
2007-11-08 13:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by toast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldnt tell you. But the grass isnt always greener on the other side.
2007-11-08 13:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a liar and a cheat, always a liar and a cheat. The guy you are cheating with should be worried.
2007-11-08 13:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like a great guy. Why would you want to hurt him?
2007-11-08 13:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stupid husband:what an a ss:watching you as if that will stop you going with the other man.the other man wont want you with yourchildren:youre only for his sexual release.
2007-11-08 13:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by 2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋