I may have violated my bf's privacy by going thru his phone bill. I suspected him of cheating so I looked through his bill & there was a large amount of phone #'s so I called a view to c who these people were & sure enough they were other women that he was fooling around with.
Now he saids we can never be together & that what I did made him feel as if he'd been raped. I should've have ever overstepped my boundaries like that. I know going thru someone's phone bill isn't exactly the right thing to do but I had a hunch and I had to follow it & find out the truth because I knew he'd never tell me.
2007-11-08 04:50:00 · 9 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Yes this is a violation of his privacy.
And since you posted this in law and ethics I might add that it is considered a federal offense to read someone elses mail.
2007-11-08 04:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by queen of snarky-yack again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is one of those situations where you were both in the wrong.
He was wrong to be cheating on you. That is for true and for sure.
However, you need to be able to trust the person you are with and not snoop on them. In this situation, you were able to justify your actions after the fact. However, next time, you could screw up a relationship with a person who is not cheating on you.
From what I have observed, a partner who starts to snoop into the life of the other in order to find evidence of cheating is never satisfied. If you had not found evidence of phone calls, what would you have done? Go thru his email? Have him followed? Send your friends to hit on him and see how he reacts? I have seen people do all of these. They were not satisfied until they had seen a reason to believe that the partner was cheating. There was no such thing as innocent. The person was automatically guilty and the partner needed to just find the proof.
You may want to sit back and think about this. This is the kind of thing that can prevent you from really keeping a good relationship going.
2007-11-08 12:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical the violator accusing the accuser
(sounds quite a bit MORE like what rapists do---to me)
just drop the cheatin fool
2007-11-08 12:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You violated his privacy.
You may have violated the law as phone bills are mail.
2007-11-08 12:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you violated trust!!
you surely had no confidence in him or you would have not gone thru his bill!!
You just should have called it off and not been a non ethical person and invaded his privacy!
Someday you will find that right person and you will know trust and that will be that!!
2007-11-08 12:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you did but what he did was worse
If you opened his mail addressed to him you could be breaking federal law as well
If he used your phone or if it was a shared phone then no you did nothing wrong.
Best bet is dump his butt
2007-11-08 13:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he will be glad to be rid of you. On what basis do you expect to maintain a relationship after that?
2007-11-08 13:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Barry C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he violated your trust. better to know now than later.good luck in the future
2007-11-08 12:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by HaSiCiT Bust A Tie A1 TieBusters 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you violated his privacy.
This relationship is over. You don't trust him and he doesn't trust you.
Move on.
2007-11-08 12:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by raichasays 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋