Have you ever loved someone in your life with heart, and soul,?

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but were able to turn around and leave them, because you were seeking a kind of impossible PERFECTION, dictated by the discipline of your mind?
What was the outcome of your choice.
To this day, do you regret it, or have you sublimated that search for perfection in something other than another person?

Kakcky, I do not date, nor see anyone - you have reason to say, "why put anyone through that."

Quite New, your words which soothe nearly make me smile - but I haven't much trust that for me they'll come true! Thank you though!

Deep? Is that what it is? Too much the pain to even wonder.

What? . . Grieve over and over and for ever Again? No, that is no answer to this.

Dear Gryphon1 and friend Free, it is exactly this dilemma you mention, that I know of me. Still I am trying to learn how to break away fro the strictness and the insistence of excellence from what I was demanded off, during my childhood. Being as I have become is not living!!! I know that! And also I now know I must not inflict upon others, tis learned code!
I was exposing my most fragile aspect of me, which I used to think was a strength . . it is not . . it is a slow, self inflicted Death. But STILL, I am trying to change, and that is why I sought your help, from the forum.

I would like to add that I will be back later today to vote, yesterday and part of today had to be, and continues to go on : the task of winterizing my home.
But I will return to do justice to your comments with the decided vote! xxxooxooo to all! Grecia.

Answer 1

Whats the point in holding onto someone who doesn't care for you? Let go, grieve then move on, its the only way.

Answer 2

No.
But I can see how easy it can happen that one can overrule ones heart in favor of ones head.
Pat yourself in the back. You were able to run against chemical love, and I mean a pure physical attraction that may be so hard to forget.
Very few people can say that.
The meter that you will eventually and finally judge yourself against will be when you finally meet another one, and you will compare the two (the might have been) and the one in front of you.
I wish for you to say to the one in front of you "I am sure glad I waited for you. You are worth all the wait" And then you will live happily thereafter. The End.

Answer 3

I don't believe I have ever loved someone that much, but if I did, I would not be able to leave that person. That would be like leaving a part of me behind.
I have left, but because it was impossible to stay with someone who treated me very badly. No love there. : )
To leave someone because they are not perfect means you didn't love unconditionally. You didn't love that person for who they were if you left because the person wasn't perfect.
I still want to love and be loved. Nothing can take the place of someone who cares about you and is there for you and I can't replace it with something else.

Answer 4

No one is perfect, even Jesus Christ was not perfect, nor Buddha, nor the Dali Llama.

If you think there is someone out there that is PERFECT, then you have your bar set way to high. There is no such thing.

You have to come to the realization that people will have their idiosyncrasies and you must decide if the differences are enough for you to be able to handle. If not then move on.

Answer 5

Actually, no. I am called names often, but I have more brains than some people think. I understand and except a person for who they are. I ask nothing of them, so wait...I guess this CAN be considered a problem.
I don't ask people to change their ways, even if I have a problem...I guess this can be considered an imperfection...I haven't changed my ways, and I don't think I will....

Answer 6

If you have problems staying with someone because they don't meet an impossible ideal of perfection, please don't date. Why put everyone through that?
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Answer 7

Wow you are deep.