is it wrong to say tht i want a baby only because i want to be with the guy forever...
(plase no negitive answers) im 16 years old and have a wonderful guy im not with him but we really like each other and like to mess around alot
2007-11-08 03:58:42 · 13 answers · asked by *♥*HeY THeRe L0NeLY GiRL*♥* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yes. Let me repeat - YES. A baby should not be the glue that holds a couple together. A baby shoudl be an addition to an already stable, committed, responsible couple.
2007-11-08 04:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is wrong. A baby doesnt make things better, only harder. People have the misconception that having a child makes life so much easier and just "perfect" and it doesnt. Babies are HARD! Especially when you are trying to go to school, working a minimum wage full time job to buy the diapers for your kid AND POSSIBLY still maintain a relationship with a man. You want a man to stay because he loves you, not because he feels obligated because you 2 have a child together. There are still alot of things you 2 have yet to do together. Enjoy each other, and get on birth control... go to school, make a better life for yourself and THEN if you are still with this boy, then talk about taking things to the next level by having a child.
2007-11-08 12:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yea are you crazy if you like or even love someone the best way to get and keep your man is be a good girlfriend be all you can be and more. If thats a hard thing then you are not a good girlfriend of you really dont like or love that person like you say you do! Honey babys can ruin your life. Consintrate on getting your education then you will have all the time in the world to have a baby trust me! that way you can be the best mommy in the world.
2007-11-08 12:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by cece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is no guarantee of faithfulness, especially at your ages. In fact, babies have a tendency to bring to light whatever problems you have in your relationship, even if you "want to be with the guy forever...".
A baby is a lot of responsibility and your reasons are simply not justification for cavalierly bringing a life into the world. Wait until you are independent and can stand on your own; then, if you still want a child with this person, discuss it with them. At 16, you are simply too young to understand the consequences of such immature reasoning.
2007-11-08 12:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey, if you don't want any "negative" answers, don't ask questions. Yes, it IS wrong to want a baby because you want to be with a guy "forever". At 16, "forever" lasts about four months . . . and at ANY age, having a baby to try to keep a man is the wrong reason to have a baby. Babies deserve to be born into stable homes with a mom and dad who are excited to welcome them and are in reasonably good financial shape so that they can take care of them. A baby is not a poker chip in the game of love.
Get yourself some reliable birth control, stop thinking about babies and start thinking about finishing your education.
2007-11-08 12:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong to think that having a baby is the way to keep a man. Quite the opposite is true when you are so young. Once that baby is born, the guy will leave you, if not before its born. He will not want to be tied down to you, not when he has his whole life ahead of him.
Think about what you've said "I'm not with him but we like to mess around alot"...what does that say about him? It say he doesn't want to be with you...he just wants the sex. Why else would he not be with you?
2007-11-08 12:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies dont make strong couples, strong couples make babies. Dont even think about getting pregnant when your still in high school, think about if the guy doesn't want a baby and he leaves you, then your left alone to raise a baby at only 16. You shouldn't bring a baby into this world unless it's going to have both parents that are totally committed to it.
2007-11-08 12:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by Small♥Town♥Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you not get negative answers...I mean really...what are you thinking! Do you think that your boyfriend or friend with benefits wants to have a baby at such a young age? Does your mom even know what you are considering? My advise for you is to finish high school, go to college. You never know, you may find the love of your life then.
2007-11-08 12:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by geminigirl0527 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! Obviously your not ready to be a parent. That is very unrealistic. Even people who wait to have children until after they get married still get seperated. If your meant to be together, you will be. Do Not bring an inncoent life into yours to try and fix something or make something happen, there is no promise it will make him stay around forever. In other words, a baby won't make him stay around, it'll be you.
2007-11-08 16:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely not have a baby just because you want to stay with this guy. If he wants to stay with you, he will, but not just because of a baby. If he doesn't want to stay with you and you have a baby, he'll probably end up cheating on you or leaving you with the baby.
2007-11-08 15:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋