Pregnancy is a very complicated process and I was curious if most woman had positive experiences with their coaches. With the process being so long for delivery, the pain, timing of contractions... did they pull it off?
2007-11-08 03:49:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband and I have 4 kids. He was there every step of the way with me through the pregnancies, labors, and deliveries. I couldn't have done it without him by my side. He was great. Not all labors and deliveries are long, though. With our 3rd, my water broke about 3:30 AM and I let my husband sleep while I timed contractions. When things began to move way too quick, I had to get him up in a hurry, get the older 2 to grandma's and we barely got to the hospital for her to be born at 7:18 AM. I was glad she was in a posterior position and had to be delivered by forceps otherwise I think she would have been born in the car. Once you are in the hospital, timing contractions isn't really a big focus any longer, but getting through them is. I also had very positive experiences with the labor and delivery staff at each birth - great people who knew their stuff.
2007-11-08 04:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did good at first. But when we got to the hospital and my mom and aunt showed up it was like he didn't want to be there. He feel asleep and my mom sat up with me and coached. When the contractions really starting coming I was holding her hand and my aunts. My husband decided he wanted to record everything. He then saw how much pain I was in and switched with my aunt. He thought he was going to die when I squeezed his hand. He tried to comfort me and tried doing what my mom was doing but I didn't want him to touch me. So my mom did most of the coaching. My husband never left my side and he took the abuse I gave him. He said it was a small price to pay to see his son be brought into this world. Obviously it didn't bother him to bad because we are expecting our second son and he is still willing to go into the delivery room with me. At the end of it all he looked at me and said "I have to be honest through the whole pregnancy and labor I have learned more and have seen more of the female body then I ever wanted to know or see." I went without pain meds as well. But all in all I think he did very well for his first time and I am sure this time around will be even better then the first time.
2007-11-08 11:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lurinda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! My husband was useless, despite the classes. He was too personally invested, nervous, scared, and anxious, to remember what he was supposed to do. I think most men are under way too much pressure to perform as coaches. That's why I love doulas. They take the pressure off. And they are trained professionals who have seen it all before, they generally are able to offer more help to a laboring woman.
I know there are some great guys out there who sincerely try, and some of them do exceptionally well as coaches - but most aren't cut out for it. I'm a labor nurse, so I have some pretty extensive experience on seeing many different men in action in the labor room, and most of the time they are really at a loss on how best to comfort a laboring woman.
2007-11-08 11:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband was amazing with all three of my deliveries! With our first baby she came so fast and everything happend so fast that I was freaking out but he stayed calm and helped so much. With the other two he was so great! He knew exactly what to do. With my second baby the nurse kinda stepped in a took over for what reason I do not know and I was like "where is my husband he is doing a better job then you".
2007-11-08 12:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by One more makes 4!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my last child my coach snored quite loudly through my labor until they came in took take me to the delivery room.
Too be honest I wasn't in any pain just a back ache that would come and go, the nurses just wouldn't leave me alone long enough to get some sleep, my labors tend to go pretty quick so they kept bugging me.
2007-11-08 11:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by maybe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was O.K. Could have been worse, but could have been better. The night before my induction he got sleep and I didn't. I had been throwing up most of the night. Then when we got to the hospital he fell asleep pretty quickly. When he wasn't asleep much of the time he was reading.
But to his credit, when I needed him the most he was there. I just had to really need him for him to do much of anything. He was better after the delivery (I ended up having to have a c-section) So he really took care of our daughter most of the time for the first 2 weeks.
2007-11-08 13:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Starsfan14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not there yet but I think I will be fine as long as my husband is there by my side throughout the whole thing - as long as he doesn't faint! Hehe. Were going for prenatal classes together soon so hopefully that will prepare him and let him know what his role will be during my labor.
2007-11-08 11:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by monkeyundermypillow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I did not go to any childbirth classes, but when it came time to have our baby 7 weeks ago he was great. The nurses told him to count to ten when I had to push and he was right by my side the whole time. He really took care of me and did a wonderful job.
2007-11-08 12:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kris H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband pulled it of great he got me lots of food, played all the right music and was the only one you followed my birth plan to the letter. He even made sure that the doctor was told my intentions when i was out of it, now it's turn 2.
2007-11-08 11:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋