My next door neighbors are real pains in my as$.The woman is always going on and on,whenever she sees me outside,about all her new material possessions.Finally,I had had enough,and wrote her a short note saying please leave me alone,that I am a single mom of 4 who can afford nothing new,(she already knew that),and I am also caretaking for my sick,elderly parents who are homebound and live not far from me.I don't need,nor do I want to hear,her bragging...basically that was the essence of the letter;it was not nasty,just to the point.That was 2 days ago...and I heard nothing from them.Today I was trying to do some yardwork,when the husband screams over the fence,"Good morning,Mary Beth...have a wonderful day."--in a very over-the-top,sarcastic tone.
I did not respond and just kept raking my leaves.What would you have done?
2007-11-08 03:24:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
'bletherskyte...'--You have turned this around and made THEM the victim of rudeness here.You could not be more mistaken about me...
2007-11-08 04:38:28 · update #1
Darlin', you were right to ignore them. And you were more than polite to write them a note and take the time to explain why you would rather not have them interrupt you as you have an overload of responsibilities. They are being idiots, plane and simple, and if I'm as smart as I know I am, they won't be bothering you again, it was just their petty way of having the last word, you know what I mean? They have no way of understanding what it means to have responsibilities and to be selfless. You're tops with me, Sister. Rock on!
2007-11-08 03:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Next door neighbor is tough...
First off, great job writing a nice polite note. Nothing wrong with honesty when used correctly.
Next, people like them, they more then likely came from nothing or very little when they were growing up. Now that they have something, it is time to show you and the world just how much they have because you have become their only captive audiance.
Him being sarcastic...says 2 things. 1) they really do not car about the friendship 2) This is not the first time people have snubbed them for this reason.
Just be polite when you come in contact with them....
2007-11-08 12:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dking 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good on ya !! With a rake in my hand, I don't think I would have done nothing !!!!!!!!!
Or.... you could turn the tables on them.... next time this woman talks to you, tell her that you've not been feeling too great, and are going thru a bit of a depression. If you did anything stupid..... Seeing as she has shed loads of money, would she, being the wonderful neighbour that she is, look after your 4 kids, and ill parents...!!!
That should stop her bragging to you !!
2007-11-08 11:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sam G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would've just ignored them in the first place. There's a way to let people you're not interested without having to go to that extent, though I applaud your bravery for doing it. Takes courage! But just ignore them. Some people get off on that. Let her get her thrills and just move on. She does it cause she knows it bothers you, she knows all of that stuff. So, realize that chances are, your life is better than hers. You don't have much money to buy new toys, but you have love of family. I think it's fantastic that you're caring for your parents and 4 kids. It's not easy being a single mom, and if you're able to do it, you're the one who ought to be bragging. You have far more heart and gumption than she'll ever have. You work very hard for everything you've got. I'd feel sorry for her. ;)
Peace, love and light to you and yours
2007-11-08 11:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have done the right thing, these people are not friends and are belittling you to make themselves look big. the letter was a great idea, it showed them that they are selfish and shallow and as people they are worthless. next time anyone of them speaks to you just state calmly that you said everything you wanted in the letter and do not want any further conversations with them, if they continue to harrass you report it to the police and get an order from a solicitor to stop them annoying you. well done to you for sticking up to these vile people.
2007-11-08 13:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like them make everyone uncomfortable, not just people who are in financial binds. There is no reason to brag to anyone about material goods constantly; unfortunately, there are people like that out there. You did the right thing. They are probably not happy that someone had the courage to call them on it. Good for you!
2007-11-08 11:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you seem to like " to the point" communication please accept this in the spirit it is meant.
I think your initial response to her conversations i.e "leave me alone" was an unusually blunt and uncaring one. There is really no way to say dont communicate with me that can be wrapped up as palatable for the recipient, to be fair its outright rude to say that.
We all have to put up with people whose inane babble we find intolerable, but we dont feel we have the right to slight them.
I can appreciate the pressure you are inder in your own life , but really if it is causing you to disregard the feelings of others to this extent, you might want to ask yourself if you are having emotional difficulties. Maybe losing your general humanity a bit?
keep cool, tell them you are sorry for being a bit rude you were just under pressure, talk about yourself a bit. You never know they may be he best friends you will ever have and at lest they will have got the picture about the boasting.
EDIT
My apologies... think about it.
2007-11-08 12:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by bletherskyte 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hey you wrote them a note to get rid of them right? So it worked, they will get over the rejection soon enough as we all do and you won't have to interact with them. You are a better person than me I tend to just ignore them from the get go.
2007-11-08 11:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cassius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignoe them hi you are clearly a far better person than they are .. If hardy comes to hardy getting a barring order served on them
2007-11-08 11:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Irish816 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have swore at him, but you took the moral high ground - good for you!! If you had have swore at him, he would have loved the reaction and you would have just looked stupid - wish I had the strangth you had! x
2007-11-08 11:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by lyndsbean 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋