abortions? girls only who have done it?

Question

How do you feel after the whole situation and what option did you choose ( medication, D&E, vacuum?) I have decided that it may be my best option for my situation, and i am having trouble listening to the advice of those who have not done it.

Answer 1

I had the vacuum procedure done, and yes there is a little pain but from start to finish it lasts no more than 4 min, I also threw up afterwards they said it was caused by them dialating the cervix so quickly, I wanted to try the medication but after reading about it I was kind of nervous since it can take up to 48 hours for the whole process to end, and sometime it doesnt even work, dont listen to any negative comments, after all Abortion is still legal and hopefully will remain that way, I am so tired of hearing people say I did it but you shouldnt, yes it hurts you emotionally but in time you will get over it, I look back knowing I did the right thing, you know what is right for you no one can tell you different

Answer 2

The whole experience was upsetting for me. Even though i knew it was probably for the best at that time, I still feel terrible at the choice that I made and wonder at times if I could have actually kept my baby. Things could have been worked out if I had been adamant and strong enough to keep him/her... It's just not an easy feeling to live with. Just be sure if this is the choice you really want to make. I don't know how old you are or how your situation is but if there is any way that you can keep the baby, please do.

The doc that performed my abortion didn't really give me a choice on the different options. I was given a pill that prompted a miscarriage and then my womb was vacuumed. All I remember from the vacuuming was that I was pretty knocked out on anasthetics; one minute, the nurse was sticking a needle in my hand and the next I was out. Just make sure with the doc that when you wake up from your procedure, the painkillers would have kicked in. If not, you'd be feeling a lot of pain. You'll then be given, among with some other pills, a medication course of really strong antibiotics to prevent infection. This can cause diarrhea and extreme nausea. But it's important to keep the pills in and finish the medication.

Please allow me to ask you again to really consider the choices that you have with keeping the baby.

If you have any other questions, you can drop me a msg ok?
Good luck.

Answer 3

I believe that this is truly a question that you should be going through with your medical practitioner. Only he/she can give you the best advice when taking into account your medical history and the history of your loved ones. Not one way that may have been "better" for someone else may be the right direction for you.

I honestly think you need to be focusing on how this decision is going to impact your life and the rest of the life of your family. I too had to make a decision a very long time ago and had a two year old in tow as a single mother. This isn't a part of you that just goes away. You need to be sure that this is the best decision for you and how it is going to impact the rest of your life and not what is going to be the easiest and less painless way of getting rid of the child.

You will soon find that the pain that remains beats it all out in the long run. Take it from someone that knows first hand.

Maureen

Answer 4

As far as how I felt physically, the procedure itself was painless. I slept through the whole thing. I had a little cramping the next day.

Mentally, I was a little sad, however, I knew that it was the best decision for me at that time so I did not struggle with my choice at all.

Basically, you need to make sure that an abortion is the right choice for YOU and no one else. This is a personal decision that only YOU can make. Consider ALL of your options including adoption and having the baby and keeping your child.

Whatever you do, if you choose abortion, make sure that you choose a doctor who is trained and experienced. Don't just go to the cheapest practitioner. Do your homework. Best of luck!

Answer 5

1- it depends on the anesthesia you get. i got a local (a shot to numb your cervix)and felt some cramping during the procedure. it's more cramping than shooting pain. it usually lasts about 10 minutes. if you get the twilight or general (sleeping), you might not feel anything.

2-afterwards, you might feel dizzy from the anesthesia. it's best to have someone drive you home.

3- the cramping and bleeding stopped in about 2 days.
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afterwards, i felt a mixtue of feelings from relief (i was very very sick from the pregnancy) to sadness for having to be placed in the situation to need to make that decision. but overall, i do believe it was the right decision for me.

although the topic of abortion is a tough one, it's one that needs discussion. very often, young women are faced with these situations and have to make hard choices. i would really suggest that you make an appoinment ASAP, as the procedure is more risky as time goes on.

good luck...

ps. contrary to what you might hear, having an abortion doesn't mean you can never have any other children.

Answer 6

I had one years ago in college as I did a stupid thing and got pregnant. The doctor used the vacuum, He injected local anesthesia into my cervix and there was some cramping during the procedure. I had some spotting for about 24 hours. I have not regretted making the choice that I did. I do wish I had never gotten myself in that predicament. So follow your heart. If you are having a hard time with an abortion, there are other ways to deal with your situation. However it is your decision and the father if he is involved in your life. Not anyone elses.

Answer 7

Forget those people that's telling you how horrible you are. What the hell makes them think that life is any better? That the baby won't suffer in life? It's so rare that a child gets adopted into a good, loving family if they get adopted at all. It's your body, your choice and if anyone tells you differently, tell them to to get that stick out of their ***.

Answer 8

I'm not trying to judge you or anything, but an abortion would be a really bad idea. It can cause a lot of problems, not to mention the emotional scars it will leave on you. Try to do everything you can to not have an abortion. I read your last question, that sucks that your parents don't like your boyfriend, but if he's going to be supportive and help you raise the baby, then why get rid of it? Also, if you don't want to raise it, why don't you put him/her up for adoption? There are many couples out there who can't have children and would be great parents for your child. I'm just saying make sure you think it through. Besides, can you even have an abortion without your parents knowing since you're only 16?

Answer 9

no dont do it.
have the baby and give it up for adoption.

seriously have you seen pictures of aborted babies?
they CAN feel the pain you know.
would you want your innocent baby to feel the pain for its arms being torn or, or a hole being jammed into its skull and its brain being sucked out?
if you do want your baby to feel that, ur a monster.

i think a better option would be to have the baby and give it up for adoption. so many people try to have a baby and tehy cant and for other people do kill them is beastly!

i hope things turn out ok, but PLEASE consider adoption.

Answer 10

With my first pregnancy I had what's called blighted ovum, so I had no choice but to have a D&C. It was heartbreaking but one has to move on.
If you feel that you cannot have a child now for whatever reason, it's probably better for all concerned. Having a child is hard work and you basically have to put your life on hold until such time that you can arrange for daycare, etc. Best wishes.