what do you think about this situation?

Question

i was in wal-mart last week buying a winter coat for my baby when i heard this woman screaming a nd i MEAN screaming at her daughter the child was no more than 67 i felt like telling her off the child loked like it was nothing new it went on for at least 3-4 minutes what do you think when that happens to uyou?

sorry i meant 6or 7

Answer 1

I hate seeing that. There is a mom who is out of control and needs some parenting skills.

It's sad but parenting doesn't come with a manual. And a lot of kids grow up with bad parenting themselves, and don't know how to be a good parent when they have kids of their own.

I hate seeing that, but because I have some insight into people like that too, I can sympathize. But really there is no excuse and that is not the way to raise kids. You will never be a successful parent doing that and just create more problems for yourself and for your child.

Its sad but there are a lot of people like that.

Answer 2

What I really think about the situation is most likely a suspension waiting to happen....soooooo.....

I've experienced this same thing...witnessed someone just going off in public on their child and its awful! You want to say something, do something...but yet what CAN you do? If you say something, the parent is already stressed so they're probably going to go off on you too....which isn't good for the child either......What the parent should have done is take the child out of the store, in their car and then disciplined them, that is the mature ADULT thing to do.....probably the child was throwing a temper tantrum and what did the parent do? Throw an adult size temper tantrum.

I'm a mom of 3, I've been there :) But I've never thrown a fit about a child throwing a fit in public.

I once witnessed a woman driving through a parking lot, try to stop her son from climbing out of his car seat that was in the back seat......it was the scariest thing I'd witnessed up to that point in my life.......the child was obviously being defiant...and while I was appalled at her trying to control her car and grab her child in the backseat at the same time....I could understand why she did what she did. She eventually stopped the car and got ahold of her son......she took him out of the car and spanked him right there in the middle of the parking lot. An extreme situation indeed, but something tells me that that child didn't try to get out of his car seat when the car was moving after that.....

Answer 3

How humiliating that must have been for the child. The mother could have at least taken the child to the bathroom or somewhere private. But screaming at the top of her lungs wasn't the best way for the mom to handle the situation, was it? It's heartbreaking.

Answer 4

i think people that yell at their kids have serious issues... yes i undersstand that they don't listen but i have never physically abused my child nor have i yelled at her like that in public.... she just always listened i guess some people are just diciplining their children wrong.... and also since my daughter was a baby i have never not even once had to put up with one of those wal-mart fits where they are screaming at the top of their lungs for a candy.... i guess my daughter was more afraid of what might happen when we got to the car or home.... all that fear without laying one hand on her or raising my voice

Answer 5

In that type of situation, if the mother had layed her hand on the child like slap or hit abusively, then immediately I would react and tell her she is taking the situation out of hand. But since she was just yelling I would give her the space, she is the parent, Im not.

Answer 6

I'm always ashamed; I want to intervene, but really what is that going to do in the long run. It'll only make me momentarily feel better for doing what I feel is the 'right thing' and it won't help the kid long term.

So I'm disturbed (because those screaming rants are scary for a child) & sad for the kid and ashamed over my cowardice.

Answer 7

People got to control their nerves when irritated.Some human beings cannot and need to be train to speak slowly when under stress or anger.go slowly and tell the person to calm down and advise the kid in a deligent manner not to make the same error again.That's is the best way to control that situation.

Answer 8

do you really mean the age of the daughter is 67 what? weeks, months or years?

Answer 9

Nuthin worse than a bully for a parent. I'd rather get a whoopin than have somebody yellin at me.

Answer 10

It is really sad to see this and you have to bite your tongue and not intervene, as you would end up being given verbal abuse. least said soonest mended here as it is a very controversial subject. You sound very caring. I admire you and every other caring person!