How can she convince her husband to allow her to keep the money she earned?
2007-11-08 01:07:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want to keep a storage of money in case "something happens". My husband spends money quickly and I don't want it spent on frivolous things but to save for emergencies, necessities so I won't be fussed at when the money gets low and I buy groceries, or in case if I absolutely have to get out of the house for a few days or so (part of the emergency planning).
2007-11-08 01:28:59 · update #1
do not tell him just take a percentage of weekly check and put in an account only you know of
i am a divorced mother of 3 and remarried i still have a separate account that is just mine that current husband does not know about and he will not i put certain amount of money in it each week just in case i need to get out again and i am not broke and homeless
2007-11-08 01:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by JENNIFER H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a certain amount of sharing money, like when you pay your rent/mortgage and bills etc, I'd open your own bank account, one he has no access to and start putting a little aside every month, have a direct debit set up and have this money taken from your account and put in your savings account. If he cannot control his spending then it is perfectly acceptable for you to do that, and if he asks just be honest and say "You spend all our money, what happens if an emergency happens and we need cash? I'm keeping this as a back up" he cannot force you to hand that money over, and who knows, one day he may well be grateful that you kept it.
2007-11-08 04:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to convince him of this? What else does he have in mind? Are you to surrender your paycheck to him? And what are your plans? Is it your intention to keep all of your money to yourself and not contribute to the household expenses at all? Can you at least pay one of the utility bills, or buy the groceries? You and your husband are supposed to be working together, not against one another.
You're not a child who needs to be allowed to keep her money. You're a grown woman; so start acting like one. Sit down with your husband and go over the bills. Decide with him, which one you're able to pay. Also, decide if it's better for you to buy the groceries and other household items, such as curtains, towels, and things like that. These items only have to be bought occasionally, which means they shouldn't hurt your budget. The rest of your money can be used for your clothing, hairdos, gas, and other such expenses. Under no circumstances should you have to surrender your paycheck to him, just as he shouldn't have to surrender his to you. By working together, you pay the necessary bills and use the rest of your money accordingly. You need to keep a dollar in the bank, so include that in your budgeting.
2007-11-08 01:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldnt keep her earnings and neither should he keep his - the income exisits between them and is not shared out in any proportion.
Marriage is a partnership where all resource is shared for the Greater Good - money is a resource that should be shared, just as time, energy, work, and everything else should be. It is only when you become One that you will be more than you are as separate individuals.
(An interesting statistic is that marriages with separate bank accounts are far more likely to fail than those with joint accounts - I guess this is to do with levels of commitment to the marriage).
2007-11-08 01:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok to have a savings, but i always worked and contributed to the "cause" when married... he made more, so paid more bills... i paid daycare, and for my own car, kids' clothing, etc.
As adults, we really must assume some sort of responsibility. Maybe you and your husband could sit down and make a budget plan, unless you are saving everything you earn so you can get out?
take care.
2007-11-08 01:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A married person keeps her earnings by getting a good job where you make money for you and your husband.
2007-11-08 01:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by jasmine h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does a person go out and make a serious decision, like getting married to another person BEFORE considering and communicating all expectations? It's amazing. You need to sit down and honestly communicate you needs and desires with your husband.
2007-11-08 03:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have her own bank accounts to which he has no access. Also, if she has credit cards, they should be in her name only.
All she has to do is open her own account in her name only. He can't get to it.
Keep in mind though that she should contribute what would be a fair amount to household expenses. A joint account should be kept for that. Marriage is a partnership...one partner should not control the other.
EMT
2007-11-08 01:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't her earnings be contributed to the household like his is?
Here is why me and my hubby do -- we have 3 checking accounts. A set amount of monet goes from each of our paychecks into a joint account for mortgage, gas, groceries, utilities, etc. We each have our own account for stuff that we want, iPod, resturant food, drinks, etc.
This way we have our own money and all of our bills are paid. It works for us.
2007-11-08 01:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister opened up her own checking account at the bank and that is where she keeps her money. Her husband doesn't have a problem with that.
2007-11-08 01:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lacye F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋