I asked a question yesterday, i am posting the background of the problem again here.
We have a nice big swimming pool down our house. A similar situation happened twice that I was swimming (naked).....my hubby came frm work with his mates, I ofcourse was not aware dat they were coming, i quickly got out .... said Hi to them and went upstairs. Since then he'z acting wiered, not talking to me properly. Its not my fault that they saw me naked and whats the big deal, its not like i had sex with them. So why hes making so big out of it. What should I do. I am 26 and he is 28. We married last year in March 06.
and I love him alot.
PROBLEM: im suspecting, hes gonna divorce me, coz today he cancelled our holidayz trip to Eygpt (which we have been planning for nearly 1 year).
I really dnt know wot hes upto. Hes being very quiet since I have apologized (Even though it was his fault, as he always knew that i go swiming naked everyday). We are only two in the house.
2007-11-07 23:58:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I heard some noises...so i quickly got out and all of sudden there were there. I completely freaked out....
2007-11-08 01:24:22 · update #1
There is more to this than we're hearing. A loving husband wouldn't plan a divorce over something like this alone. OK, so he knows you swim naked, he could have called to say he was on the way home and was bringing people. You two need to sit down and communicate to each other what the real problem is here. If you can't do that, there is no future for the marriage. Communication is key.
2007-11-08 00:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The situation you explained must have embarrassed your husband very much in front of his friends. Having his friends see you naked reduced his self esteem, for now his mates will start talking about what they saw. You need to reassure your husband that it was an accident and that it was not done intentionally. I don't think a divorce is on the works. I think that your husband has just lost the desire and the mood to take that holiday. I would suggest from now on that you stop swimming naked just in case people someone may pop in.
2007-11-08 08:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually did not have to get out of the pool, until your husband had a chance to either hand you your robe, or take his company in the house. You wanted them to see you naked and that's why your husband is upset. You know when your husband is due home from work, and you know he's subject to bring company home. You therefore need to keep a robe close by, when you're swimming during those times. No man wants a whore for a wife and that is exactly how you acted, when you got out of the pool naked and spoke to these guys. If your husband divorces you, it will be your fault--not his.
2007-11-08 08:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, honey, if he knows you swim naked everyday and it's the same time everyday, then, sure, he should ahve called or something....
HOWEVER.....you could have stayed in the pool til he got you a towel or something to cover up with! i mean, gosh! if i was in that pool, i would have stayed close to the edge and the wall while hubby got me a towel and then covered up around his friends.
i'm all for being comfortable with your body, but that's YOUR body and hubby's body....not for viewing by his buddies.
you have some making up to do and some serious talking. i don't think that's a divorceable action, so you need to find out why he's canceling the trip and being so quiet.
take care.
2007-11-08 08:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe for a second that you didn't know better than to get out of the pool naked in front of your husband's friends. Of course he's angry with you and after he divorces you, perhaps you'll learn to have a beach towel and a robe beside the pool. You might even consider wearing a swimming suit.
2007-11-08 08:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was a better way to handle the situation. You could have called him out there to you and get a robe or have robe next to the pool just in case you need to do something outside the pool. You walked out the pool like you were wearing clothes and maybe he was surprise to see you do that. You are blaming for something you did and he may be upset over that.
2007-11-08 08:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If anyone should be appologizing its him... Dont let him lay a guilt trip on you.... And swimming naked in your own pool is far from grounds for divorce.... What you have to do is find out exactly why he cancelled your trip and dont let him tell you because you swam naked min front of his co workers... Good luck... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-11-08 08:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that, it is too bad that this happened, and that from now on you will be wearing a bathing suite, because you do not ever want to be caught in a situation like that again. Sit him down a talk to him, and tell him, that it seems as if since this happened, he has changed towards you, tell him you did not do it on purpose, that you was so embarrassed, that you did not know what to do. say, I hope that we can get pass this, and continue to live a happy life!
2007-11-08 08:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He brought friends into a private home and they saw you swimming nude. He's making a big deal about it, but he probably won't divorce you, especially if he really loves you. Sit down with him and have a talk. If the situation were reversed, he would have thought you were making a big deal out of it! He's acting immature.
2007-11-08 08:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him from now on, you will only swim naked when he's in the pool with you. You have him wondering if you invited someone else over when he wasn't home.
2007-11-08 08:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋