I am living in hell, a husband that treates me as a furniture and keeps me completely dependant on him. Three days ago I had finally de confirmation and eventhough i would like to be free, I do have a 5 YEARS old and so far I can't find a job. He terrorized me, and all his mistreatment give me no power to decide. Any ideas to start getting out of this toxic relationship?
2007-11-07 23:47:00 · 13 answers · asked by Expat Froggy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-11-07 23:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by People for the Ethical Treatment of Vegetables 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You start off with lack of sex being your main concern then it quickly spirals out of control with all this other much more terrible stuff.
Did he suddenly become all these things, or are you partly in the wrong here for picking such a loser? Hasn't he always been many of these things you describe? Yet you married him and let him get you pregnant. Hmmm.
So, two stages - [1] get out and get out now, and then [2] examine what it is inside you that draws you to losers like this idiot. Granted he should never ever treat you this way but only a fool hangs around for more abuse.
Learning to take action (and not just talk about it endlessly which is what most abused women do - all talk no action), and learning how to correct your own flaw of choosing awful guys will help you live a better life.
People who mean well want to see you get out of your current mess, but also learn skills to ensure you won't make the same mistake again next time.
2007-11-08 01:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its great that you have finally realized that this is not the best situation for you or your child. My suggestion would be to start with a few temporary agencies in your area. They are good for job placement of people with little or no skills. Secondly realize that you're going to need a support system so call on family and friends and let them know your situation so that you are your son can get a jump start on a new life...Check around in your community I'm sure there are a lot nonprofit support groups to help women in your situation as well...
2007-11-08 02:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Craftychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex has some importance but it is not every thing in life.If ur husband is not treating u well,than try to find out the reason behind it,before u take any hasty step.
2007-11-08 00:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by prahlad d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find a womens shelter. Five years is nothing for a life of heartache.
2007-11-07 23:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by cooter726 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it was just lack off sex, I'd say give it a go and try to get it back. but its not , and he treats you badly, this isn't good for you or your child to see. couldn't you stay with your family until you get somewhere, or go to the citizen advice bureau for legal advice on housing and benefits etc.
2007-11-07 23:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and and seek shelter with relatives, and tell your husband that you are not coming back till he puts his life and behaviour in order.
2007-11-07 23:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your already on track with realizating this isnt for you and your child. Do you have a family member or friend that can take you and child in?
2007-11-07 23:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a womens shelter and dont look back, dont think for a moment maybe its better if i stay for the child, it ends up being worse for the child.
2007-11-07 23:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take you and your child to a womans shelter where you will be protected..then start looking for a job or even state assistance
2007-11-07 23:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by eyesicyblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorceand start a fresh life.
believe that :
Every day is a new day, a fresh start.
this word i learned from a BBW group-----------(largefriends dot com flash user flash big5)
2007-11-08 00:24:19 · answer #11 · answered by nora n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋